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When do I make the move to ask him to leave

deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband and I have been married 7 years. We have a 2 year old boy. My husband cheated 3 years ago. Since then we went to counseling, I made moves to re-excite our sex life. I have been supporting him while he goes to school, though he gets money through the GI Bill. Additionally I helped with taking care of his daugter from a previous marriage as well as HIS stepdaughter while their mother was deployed. She will be deployed again and we will have his daughter for over a year. Anyway, a month ago AFTER we went to Hawaii, I discovered that the night before we left for a trip to Hawaii he was seeking 'discrete encounters' with women via the internet. I found out after we got back. Anyway, he said he would stop. Well I discovered today that he has restarted it. Logistically asking him to leave at this time is hard. I travel for work and as I said we have a child. Additionally we are supposed to have his daughter in the fall for the year. Logistically, being a single Mom is a difficult option at this point in time. I can't take it anymore. What is wrong w/ this man? I am so scared of being a single Mom. I know I can do it. I'm financially okay but I don't want the stigma.

Any input would be appreciated. I do have some support to help me when I travel. I'm looking for new employment in Colorado where I am from.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry, I can't stand cheaters. My stbx cheated on me prior to a marriage and said she owuld never do it again. Well, suprise! she did it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. These people are the most despicable.
JoeTex
JoeTex
He is a sexual addict. He has a mental problem and uses sex to medicate himself. I am going to guess that he has a huge porn habit. If you dont see it, check and see where he goes on the internet. He could get help for his problem, but he has to admit that he has one. Some people like that think that they just have a high sex drive. It is not normal. My opinion is that if you cant trust him, you cant stayed married to him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
First of all there really isn't much of a stigma from divorce anymore- though I know how you feel about it- I'm the same way.
I know how trapped you feel, I'm in the same boat. Still, if you can afford to leave then you should. There is no way this situation will change- or it wouldn't have happened again- and you'll only start to feel angry, resentful, and ill. spare all the kids in this situation the pain of living like that. Try to find a way to move back home where you have some help and loose this man. You might tell his ex what's happening so she can make other arrangements for her daughter if need be. I'm sorry, this is so unfair.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It will never be a "good" time.If you really cannot trust him you owe it to your child to go.

Sorry to say but with divorce being so common these days there is almost no stigma attached to single parenthood!
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