DUUUDE! No seriously. You are right. Sorry. I kind of feel the same way. Let them be and like we always tell everyone... MOVE ON! So whats up dang?

Ill repost

My wife left me 2 years ago after 1 year of marriage. She actualy left me on our 1st anniversary. I never got a reason from her she just said she doesn't feel like being married anymore. We were together for 4 years before we got married and we have a child together. I also raised her child as my stepson from 2 months to now almost 6 years old. It has been 2 years and I still think about her constantly. I drink a lot which I never did before and I am afraid to got o sleep because I always dream of her. We never got a chance to try and save our marriage because she fell in love with ine of my groomsmen. He is a good friend though and turned her down but that made her depressed and she ended up taking a whole bottle of wellbutrin and ended up in intensive care. This made my depression worse because after all of the years, the marriage, the kids she is willing to take her life for this guy she has known for a short time. I spent all thanksgiving in the hopsital taking care of her, taking her to the bathroom, feeding her and holdiong her puke bucket. Later that night my friend showed up and she kicked me out so she could be alone with him. I can't seem to get over her and I dont know what to do. I am severly depressed and I have a personality disorder that make me care about other people and not care for myself at all. I often have thoughts of suicide but I know I would never do it because I know how it would affect other people and I don't want to hurt anyone else. I am not a danger to myself so don't worry because there is no way I would ever do it. Thank you for letting me vent.
Posted on 12/08/07, 11:12 am

yes everyone.. let's get back to dangell.. he is a man and he is more important than what happens to a 15 year old....

you are absolutly right I don't know what really to say since I was in theropy on my 3rd and last anniv. While he was here at my apartment with the kids sinse he had no home at that time. Everyones sitution is different we all take steps at our own pace just need to find yours and follow your heart

Well, I think you are too nice of a guy who loves his ex very much. But I bet the one time you are not there for her, she will be at your beck and call. The more you put distance between the two of you, the more she will want you.

And the more distance you put between you, the more YOU will come to realize you are not drinking so much, you ar smiling even more and you are not thinking about her so much.

Sounds to me like she is just using you.

Hope I helped.

Excuse me for expecting support from a support website. This is exactly why I left the last one. People bashing like this is some kind of video game forum. We jst had some girl take a bottle of sleeping pills because people were bashing her when she was asking for help.

It's the not knowing why that makes this so horrible. That, and giving up without even trying. To me the end of any marriage deserves the respect of (1) a good try at fixing it and (2) total honesty about why the person wants to end it.

I cant really distance myself from her because
I am always taking my kids.

Yes, but you can try emotionally. Pick up the kids and go. Drop them off and go. Dont give her the time to hurt you any more.

dangell, I have read your posts, but I just got on and I responded to what I thought more important. I don't think anyone is bashing anyone. I do think some kind, concerned mothers of teenaged girls are stepping forward to protect a girl who has already been victimized too much.

I totally understand that i have to see the x three times a week with the kids. I know it is not easy to have to deal with the hurt when it faces you every other day almost but some how we all just move forward and try not to back step

I just asked if we could get back o the mai topic and I got the response "Yes lets get back to Dangell... He is a man and he's more important then what happens to a teenage girl".

Sometimes if the x and I don't want to see on another for what ever reason at the time his sister will take the kids and be our pick up point have you tried something like that

First of all, thank you for becoming a part of our U.S. Army. I am not sure what a Officer Candidate is but I am personally grateful for all our U.S. servicemen and women. I think psychotherapy might be your best bet for depression, and maybe even medication. I am sorry about your childhood, but you are a good guy. Hold onto that and you are young and strong and with some professional help will get through this.