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What would you do?

deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband and I have been separated for 2 years, we finally decided to call it done in august. We gave it a good try. Heres the thing, his dad just passed away, they are my family, I feel drawn to all of them. No one in his family is keeping me away, and it is the family that kept us trying for so long. I do not want him to feel like I am pushing him, it is what it is. It seems like we are drawn together at every birthday, holiday and now this, which is big. And I was worried about Christmas. I will go to the memorial. The problem is they are out of state, our son is with his dad, out of state, If I go I will be drawn to him emotionally, we were to close to not want to help him. If I go to him, which I really want to do, it will only prolong our pain. I can't decide.
deleted_user
deleted_user
wow, that is such a personal decision. I know it is hard to see each other when there is emotional stuff going on.
deleted_user
deleted_user
just my thoughts, you should go. you could be a comfort not just to H, but to the whole family and your son also. my children were very very angry at my ex husband when he did not come and pay his respects when my parents died. they felt he should have at least been there for their sakes in case they needed him and i was dealing with my own grief.
Garrison
Garrison
It may be hard, but IMO you should go. There are people other than youself and him involved - those other people, family for argument's sake, would love the support.

Good luck on what you decide.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you should go. I know that if something happened to his parents I would be there for him. But not only him I would be there for my children. I think that you just have to look at it as you are helping a friend and try to keep your emotions in check. I know that is easier said than done because I am still a sucker when my stbx turns on the tears. I think in the long run if you dont go you are going to have a hard time dealing with the guilt. Just my opinion, but if was me I would go
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