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Well I need advice and dont really know where to start so I guess the beginning is a good place. I divorced my first wife with both of us parting as friends. We were together 8 years, married 2 of those and found out after we were married we were better friends than husband and wife. For five years I was a very strong Christian, studying with my pastor 5 days a week, learning more in those five years than I did in the ten years prior to that.
I met my new wife and we were together for 8 months then married, and I thought I knew her well enough and even went so far as to trust her, which I think was a big mistake. We moved into a two bedroom apartment in the complex where I already lived in a one bedroom. When she and her children first moved in with me, two months before we married, she refused to allow me to move anything of mine in besides my bed and clothing until she had unpacked all her belongings and her children\'s. This seemed kind of strange but I went along with it. Later on Ive found out that I have been lied to since the beginning. I was told by her that she had a nursing degree and worked at a hospital as an emergency room nurse. This was a lie because she never went to school and received a degree. I fell in love with her and her children and thought that with her degree in nursing and my job in advertising we could have a comfortable life together and do everything for the children that neither of us ever had. When the bills began piling up I asked her to go back to work so that we could dig ourselves out and she refused, saying that something happened to her there and that she couldnt be a nurse again. I began talking with her father and step-mother, who she managed to keep me from before we were married and found out allot of things. I then began digging around and found out allot of things, such as she had another boyfriend in Canada that she was supposed to pick up at the airport the day she moved in with me, she has never been good with money and has been evicted from apartments numerous times, that the children\'s fathers (different ones for the boy and girl when I was told they had one father) did not die in a car crash among other things. I expected her to pay the bills when I gave her the money but that those arent being payed and are very late and that she is always borrowing money from her mother to scrape by. Now, all I hear is constant complaining, she refuses to get any kind of job at all, lied to me about being charged for returning to medical assistant school (I called the school and spoke to her councillor and found out that the $400 return fee she told me was a lie), and constant screaming and yelling at everyone and everything. She is more worried about what other people are doing and refuses to help me support the family at all. I work around 50+ hours a week for us to make it and she is mad because Im hardly home, and when I try to explain to her why I have to do this it isnt good enough for her. She wants more and more and refuses to help get it. I do more than I can and try to do the best I can, but without help its slowly killing me. My mental health is pretty much fried, my physical health is slowly deteorating and my financial situation is pushing me into bankruptcy when before if I had the income I could finance anything and get a credit card anywhere I wanted.
I have come back to Christianity and prayer to help me, but I need some opinions. I have never been strong doing these kinds of things and guess my heart is bigger than my brain. I cant take the pressure of this anymore. Any help would be appreciated.
I met my new wife and we were together for 8 months then married, and I thought I knew her well enough and even went so far as to trust her, which I think was a big mistake. We moved into a two bedroom apartment in the complex where I already lived in a one bedroom. When she and her children first moved in with me, two months before we married, she refused to allow me to move anything of mine in besides my bed and clothing until she had unpacked all her belongings and her children\'s. This seemed kind of strange but I went along with it. Later on Ive found out that I have been lied to since the beginning. I was told by her that she had a nursing degree and worked at a hospital as an emergency room nurse. This was a lie because she never went to school and received a degree. I fell in love with her and her children and thought that with her degree in nursing and my job in advertising we could have a comfortable life together and do everything for the children that neither of us ever had. When the bills began piling up I asked her to go back to work so that we could dig ourselves out and she refused, saying that something happened to her there and that she couldnt be a nurse again. I began talking with her father and step-mother, who she managed to keep me from before we were married and found out allot of things. I then began digging around and found out allot of things, such as she had another boyfriend in Canada that she was supposed to pick up at the airport the day she moved in with me, she has never been good with money and has been evicted from apartments numerous times, that the children\'s fathers (different ones for the boy and girl when I was told they had one father) did not die in a car crash among other things. I expected her to pay the bills when I gave her the money but that those arent being payed and are very late and that she is always borrowing money from her mother to scrape by. Now, all I hear is constant complaining, she refuses to get any kind of job at all, lied to me about being charged for returning to medical assistant school (I called the school and spoke to her councillor and found out that the $400 return fee she told me was a lie), and constant screaming and yelling at everyone and everything. She is more worried about what other people are doing and refuses to help me support the family at all. I work around 50+ hours a week for us to make it and she is mad because Im hardly home, and when I try to explain to her why I have to do this it isnt good enough for her. She wants more and more and refuses to help get it. I do more than I can and try to do the best I can, but without help its slowly killing me. My mental health is pretty much fried, my physical health is slowly deteorating and my financial situation is pushing me into bankruptcy when before if I had the income I could finance anything and get a credit card anywhere I wanted.
I have come back to Christianity and prayer to help me, but I need some opinions. I have never been strong doing these kinds of things and guess my heart is bigger than my brain. I cant take the pressure of this anymore. Any help would be appreciated.
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