my exs would say:'
Professional Male, 50 yrs old, fit, but drunk most of the time. I really like to have sex with men, but I don't want anyone to know that. As long as some woman is willing to pay 1/2 my bills I can play act, till she gets mad at my screwing around with guys. Did I mention that I'm having a mid life crisis and need professional help?

46 year old male, has been having a midlife crisis for the past 15 years. I will be with anyone, I'm not picky. Prison cons, uneducated women, married women, anyone is good enough for me. Don't expect me to be faithful because I am a dog and I know it. I supported my wife and children all of these years so I no longer feel the need to be financially obligated to them. My business is failing and I am in debt up to my eyeballs. I do drive a nice expensive car though. Do not expect me to always pick up the phone when you call, you see I turn it off when I am with other woman. I think that I am really good in bed, that is my own opinion, Other opinions about my sex skills are not valid. I was once handsome but years of drug abuse have really taken the toll on me. I try to convince everyone that I am no longer a crackhead but they don't believe me. I guess my lying skills are not what they used to be. I am the prize, remember any and all can apply as I am desperate and not picky at all.

My ex fit that mold pretty well except our kids are grown. All he want to do in life is work come home read the paper, fall asleep wake up eat dinner then go to bed every night of the week. The weekend he is like a hermit. not interested in any form of intimacy. Im telling you this guy could be my ex.

well, i could copy and paste what his AFF profile states...LOL ooohhhh or the dating site one too....

lies lies lies

Good thread.

If hes completely honest with himself, mine may write.


Confused male looking for love, but Im not sure I can return anyones love. I think Im turned on to men but dont want to admit it even to myself, so Im looking to hide behind a very attractive and extremely young woman to verify my manhood. She must adore me and do everything I want as you see I was an only child and am used to getting everything my way and I dont want complication with a strong woman who may need anything in return, such as intimacy, love and sharing.


Write me if its okay with you that I not pay any attention to you and I can continue my secret life-style with men. I may occasionally have anonymous sex with men but dont let this bother you because I will make sure you are taken care of by providing food and shelter for you.


Dont expect anything else with me. Oh, by the way I love watching television, so when Im watching Desperate Housewife, House, American Idol, Ugly Betty or any of the hundreds of silly programs I watch please dont talk to me. You can discuss things with me during a commercial break.


Another thing you must cook my meals three times a day, clean my house and be a date partner for when I go out with other straight couples to the theatre or movies as I need a good cover. I dont want my friends to think Im not interested in women even though I dislike them intensely.


I think I may have narcissitic tendencies, but heh no one is perfect. As you can see, Im a great catch, so please write me.


Best Wishes,
Confused Bill

It fits the mold pretty well. Here's mine of my STBX. Thanks for the post. It helps put things into perspective . . . again.

I am fun loving, love the sun, and love passion (not intimacy so much because I am a guy and sex equals intimacy to me).

We did not get along because all she thought of was work and ensuring that the retirement money would be there. She was Mrs. Responsibility. Who cares? Live for today. I was tired of her never wanting to party, always tired from work and taking care of the house (which I refused to do because #1. it is not fun and #2. it is woman's work --My mom did it and never complained) and also tired of her not wanting to have wild sex or even any after a while. I thought she was dysfunctional in that department and she wouldn't get therapy. In the last 10 years I asked her to get sex therapy. Isn't that reaching out? She was boring and I needed excitement. Life is too short.

I am getting older and that is hard to accept. My philosophy is from the 60's, "If it feels good do it." So I did with someone with no inhibitions (and if it was with someone in the family, so what? They should be happy I am happy and finally out of that hell hole of a marriage. They have now shut me out, she and my kids. She offered to get all kinds of therapy, but too little too late.

Well, life is short and I am going to live it up with what I have left. I wasted 25 years of my life, and I will not waste any more. She was okay up until the kids were born. I love my kids, don't get me wrong, but they sucked the life out of the marriage because she gave them all the attention I got before they were born. I stuck it out all those years when I would like to have left, so now I am entitled to live again.

>>>>>>Okay, there is some of my input in the obvious sarcasm, but it is also exactly what he told me before he left, which is more than he talked to me in the last 20+ years.

Ok Here is what he has on Match.com

39-year-old man
Syracuse, New York, United States
seeking women 35-40
within 25 miles of Syracuse, New York, United States
Relationships: Divorced

Have kids: Yes, and sometimes they live at home (3)

Want kids: Probably not

Ethnicity: White / Caucasian

Body type: Slender

Height: 5'7" (170cms)

Religion: Christian / Catholic

Smoke: Trying to quit

Drink: Social drinker, maybe one or two

Here is what is on his myspace

I am 39 and currently seperatedand hoping for the best..I know i have made some mistakes in my life to hurt someone I just wish we could forgive and forget and move on with what was a wonderful life.I have 3 boys 10,8, and 6.I love spending time with my children as often as i can.I am in the bricklayers union fulltime.

I guess he can't make up his mind if he is divorced yet or not.

Drinking a few includes 5,6,0r more 5 out of 7 days a week. Along with always being negative, unless you are one of his buddies.

I am wonderful

I am great

I am faultless

I am gods gift to the world

I am perfect

I deserve everything

I am best in whole world

oh, and I was married to some jerk

He was the worst

He had no redeeming quality

He had nothing to compliment

He deserves to be crushed

He has no right breathing

He dont think of me 100% of the time

Is there anyone out there looking for ME.

...thats what her profile would say in so many words.

pretty much sums up mine--hit it right on the nose--thanks --at least some one else out there knows what i'm going through !!!!!!!!!!!!!

pretty much the same...

Professional male, 46 years old, excellent at his work, sucks at home.
Feeling guilty about being a workaholic while wife raised kids, now trying to buy their affection, working on one but not the other.
Decided I could do better by screwing around with a younger woman, but its not getting me anywhere and I have lost my wife, who has stood by me through a manic depressive brother, fragile manipulating mother, selfish sister, she has raised my kids and done a hellof a good job, helped take care of my mother, put our life on hold the past 3 years because Mom moved in with us and we can't do anything without her and we couldn't go on any vacations because we couldn't leave Mom, and she takes care of me when I am sick but I am not happy so I want everything and leave her on the streets with nothing...I don't think her lawyer is agreeing to that. So I am being nice, when my bi-polar isn't getting in the way and trying to appease her so she will feel sorry for me and I get my way and I still get to take everything I want.

OK Thanks! That was theraputic! LOL

This is an equal opportunity posts GUYS Im sure you have a lot to say so speak up!!!!

In his own words things hes said to me over the years, almost always preceded w/the words, IN MY MIND

MrGoodGuy:

IN MY MIND, I never lied. I just told her things I THOUGHT SHE WANTED TO HEAR, so they werent really lies. I dont care what the dictionary says, omitting important information isnt the same as lying."

"IN MY MIND, she never bothered to thank me for treating her like a queen. I did everything for her, I even helped around the house. I provided a decent roof over her head, food, clothes, etc. I remembered all special occasions."

"IN MY MIND my only mistake was that I let her work."

"IN MY MIND she is rigid and unforgiving, judgmental & negative 85% of the time. And, she wanted to turn me into a girl you know share my feelings with her. Im a guy guys dont do feelings."

"IN MY MIND, I just didnt bother to tell her when I was having a drink b/c if I did, she would just get on my case about it. She thinks Im an alcoholic. How can I be? Ive never been arrested. I didnt lose the family assets (the $10K loan I cosigned for an AA bud who promptly defaulted doesnt really count). I never missed a day of work, never killed anyone and Ive never been divorced (oops). I don't drink that much & I can stop after one drink no alcoholic can do that. I just like going to AA because they are good people. I only went thru rehab twice b/c she made me go (shes so rigid). I was sober for 12 years and rarely had a drink during that time. It didnt matter to her that I would buy my Jack 45 minutes from the house, drink it all & toss the bottle. That way, I figured if I did get stopped, it would be too soon for the cops to tell Id had anything."

IN MY MIND, I always do the right thing. Just because I didnt talk to her when it came time to make major decisions, doesnt mean I didnt take her into consideration when I made them. What more does she want?

IN MY MIND, I dont understand why she doesnt trust me.

Im a great guy, everyone says so. I like myself just the way I am.

SLUG
4? year old male. married to ungrateful woman. we have/had everything.gave her everything (except freedom,, consideration, respect yadda yadda blah blah) beautiful house (which I can't afford without her) I have 2 cars (dunno why, don't have a job) had dogs (she took em, or they ran away...oh wait there's one)a few kids ( not sure how many, her job, never really bothered with them)hobbies- talking.... about me. reading. listening to music (don't really care if someone else is sleeping etc, even in same room) tv (same) smoking cigarettes and drinking coffee. monitoring wifes comings and goings ( she's usually up to something and I have nothing else to do)computer.(nosing into wifes business) I believe a couple should share the household chores, I am willing to do some (and she should do the rest when she comes home from work)I am a "take charge" kinda guy. meaning, everything around me is mine to control. if I don't think you are using it, I take charge of it. I believe in sharing, and since she has more...hey, it's only fair! I'm willing to care for her when she is ill and unable (definition- unconscious or dead)I have always been there for her ( in the geographical area) she has beeb slightly distant lately (hasnt slept in same bed with me in over a year, dunno what's up with that, and have never asked)In summation (which is waaay to big a word for me, wife musta wrote this) I'm useless!

44 going on 14 y/o male, a little overweight but slimming down nicely in slimfast. I was with the same woman 20 yrs but married 13. I love being the sole focus of her attention but was jealous of the cats, the kids and her family. I did my best to isolate her from her family but I still was not happy. I need sex a lot and it's my only source of stress relief and validation. When hard times came my wife struggled and I got pissed. So I would run off on her with other people men or women and or spend hours on the internet at night. I enjoy the complete control and fantasy of the internet that I prefer this form of sex over reality. I am a perfectionist and often quit when I think I might not get a job done just right. When I get frustrated like this I prefer to sleep and masterbate to porn. I love my kids but they are my wife's job. My wife tells me when I'm suppose to do anything with or for them. I resent them when they interfere with my online activities. The last two years of my life is shear hell. I was always letting my wife down and feeling guilty about it. I decided to villify my wife so I could go on with a new happier life with my latest sex kitten. She's great all she wants is sex and that makes me feel whole.

40 yr old male.I left my fiance b/c her family is too difficult to deal with.I asked her many times to move to another area(3 hours away)not too far so that we could visit but far enough that we would not have to deal with them daily.
I am an alcoholic and I like to use drugs but I'm not addicted.I could quit either one whenever I wanted to.

It would easier to quit if she had moved with me but she wouldn't because of her mothers health issues.I told her many times that it was her sister's turn(she has been doing this for almost 10 years now) and both her sisters just moved back about a year ago to help).She wouldn't listen though so I had to leave for my own sanity and happiness.

I still love her but I can't be with her anymore because she can't let go of her family.I think she has a great heart but it should have been for me.She is a grown woman now who should be living for herself and the man she loves.

I need a woman who can be there for me.