Do you mean other than the fact that he was having sex with random men?

Ouch, Courier! That's damn sure a sign, I agree!

My sign was that she blew up at me and said too bad for you that I am very independent. Then one day at night I heard her talking on the phone in the other room and saif to her sister that she would be ok on her own. My heart almost jumped out.

WHAT? What a degrading thing to say!!!! You are special!
Keep carrying yourself that way, do not hunch the shoulders for him or anyone else! Be proud, be strong!
My first clue is he started distancing himself,, he wasn't as attentive. He used to really listened when I chattered (which I do, hate to say). He started kinda making fun of me when I talk... I am from the country was actually raised on a large ranch and I revert back to allot of slang sometimes,, usually when I am angry! He mocks me with it! I am very educated and only talk that way when I am angry,, I swear!

Because of the abuse in my childhood, I learned to try and walk with confidence when I didn't feel it. He knew that, so the low, painful blows are definitely signs, I think.

My first sign was when he quit talking to me for a month and he slept on the couch more than normal

I guess I was just clueless. But I did think it was strange when all of a sudden he wanted to work out and change his hair. But I did not associate that as a sign.

i think the first sign was when she handed me her ring and told me to put it in a safe place.....put my proctologist recommended against it.

When on easter Sunday I was sitting next to him in church and and saw a text message from the OH that said "I love you". Nice church going man that he was was texting the H in church.

Maybe a couple of years ago if I am honest with myself. the longer time goes by, the more I reallyn see how long I have been the only one working on our marriage.

The lies & the drinking even before we were married. I was too young & naive to pay attention. Then the emotional abuse kicked in...

When I came home from my "female doctor" and was telling him about how it went. We have been having infertility issues for a long time now. Anyways, he wasn't interested and he didn't want to go with me for some tests I had the next week. That was the first time and only time that I knew somethng was up. I had to finally "make" him say what was on his mind and here I am...700 miles later and divorce in progress.

My first sign was when he stayed the night with her.

oh man....i guess the first time we went to counseling and he quit after the second session. as long as i was broken....then he wasn't. if i'm being honest, we had trouble communicating even before we were married. i just thought that it would get better....NOT!

When my then 10 year old daughter's friend's mom asked me to come by her place after work and proceeded to show me a Match.com posting of MY husband advertising himself as divorced! Funny, since I still thought that we were married! He had posted photos of himself with our daughter and various other pics that he had asked ME to take of him. All along knowing that he would use them to troll for my replacement. OMG, I was so stunned and humiliated.