My story is a long one and I don't know how to say it succinctly. Over the years we have had issues; money, sex, housework - I have always put a lot more into our relationship than him -he is a taker and I am the giver. I have been depressed over some life events - losing my parents, job, child - he said he got fed up with my misery. He told me he didn't love me anymore whilst I was desperately trying to make our marriage work again.I knew something was wrong and wanted to make it right but he withdrew, refused to do anything to help, let me do all the work. At Xmas I had enough and I swtiched off too and seemed stronger for it so in April I said I wanted to leave. We went for counselling but it hasn't helped. He does more around the house but the money isn't joint, no sex for over a year - the love isn't there. He wants me to be cheerful but when I do get down I know I can't go to him. He says he cares but that feeling that you are cared for just isn't there. Neither of us are getting any love but neither of us will end it. I want to. I want to feel happy again - I have been so unhappy for 4 years now. It seems the best I can hope for is a husband who will help out around the house but who will never be there for me emotionally. Thing is I know that most people have that so I feel bad that I want to leave and ruin everybodies lives just because he doesn't understand me. He says he will never change so I know this is my lot - I just don't know how whether to make the best of it or whether to risk it and go in the hope I can feel love again. Any advice would be most helpful.
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