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My husband just left me wednesday for a woman ten years younger than him. He is 32 and she is 22.....she has 3 kids and we have none. I keep thinking to myself that he will wake up and realize how big of a mistake he made, i miss him so much, i do not feel complete without him. i call and text him all the time. i can't help it. i know i need to stop....last night he called and said he wants hit title for his suv so he can get his tags and if i find it....he will meet with me to talk....i know when this happens i will keep begging him to come home but on the other hand i need to see him....i am not strong enough yet to put it in the mailbox and him get it on his own time...then i think to myself that maybe if i play hard to get and make it seem like i don't care that he left....he will realize he messed up and beg to come back......what to do...what to do.....
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oh tracey you and I are carbon copies..I dial the phone with complete knowledge that he is going to be mean, yet i still do. I want mine home desperatly all the advice i have been given is to not call and make myself unavailable,,, make him wonder.. yet I cant seem to do it,, if you find the way please let me know
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Dont' be so accomodating.. let him suffer. you are too kind. Hire a lawyer and find out if you can change the locks on the home inthe meanwhile don't give him any method to liquidate matrimonial assets.

Then get yourself to a doctor for meds or a counsellor to cope. you need to cope with this first before you start handing over assets to him.
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Get your own attorney and give him nothing you don't have to. You owe him nothing. Try to remember all the things he did to you while you were together. Do you really want him back? Or is it the dream of what you thoght you had that you want back?
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since he is leaving you under THESE terms, it WOULD be a bad idea to take him back even if he wanted to. He may wake up to his mistake, and he may not. Either way, it doesnt matter. Im so sorry that you have to go through all this. Its so hard when he was your life. You might need to find a "new" life. My suggestion is to find a good church and learn about the Lord. When you find your life in Him, He will NEVER fail, even when life gets tough! Also, when the time comes after some of the shock wears off, try some of the suggestions to keep yourself busy that we were talking about earlier! Doing both of these really helps me out daily. (Even though I sound so hypocritical to myself! Its not really. I am still human and make dumb mistakes! Its a good thing God is so forgiving!)
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