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As some of you know my husband left me a few weeks ago to be with someone else. My oldest son is 6 and he says things out of the blue like I miss the good old days and he tells me that mommy and daddy will always be together and that he will do whatever he can to keep us together. This hurts me like crazy because I still love my husband and want to be with him. What do I tell my son? I mean I have told him that mommy and daddy are having problems right now but no matter what we love him and our other 3 children. What do I say to him when he talks about us getting back together. Please help me.
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No idea.
But
Don't YOU live with your mom and dad now?
GO ASK YOUR MOTHER! she should have the best advice for you ;)
My son was 12 when this happened to us and his sis was 20. Good luck trying to ride the fence. Don't know how you can leave 4 under 6.
Or maybe not. I don't know. Reality Rules, so I vote for No False Hope.
When it comes to talking to the kids, I think it's very important to keep it simple and at their level - give only the information that they need. Reassure them they are loved and that they are not to blame for what happened. That it's between the adults and even though it may seem unfait, they can't do anything to fix it. And above all, never speak poorly about the other parent to the child. Hope something in all that rambling helps - I'll be thinking of you...
I did what you have done.. reassured the children that you are there for them.. and that you and dad will always love them.
you do not know what is going to happen with the relationship and if dad will be coming back at this time.
that is dad's decision.
only so much you need to tell them as you are as unsure of the future as they are. Age approriate is important.. they do not need to know ugly details.
make sure they know that they have a home and you are there for them and they can come and talk to you. Plenty of hugs help to.
As I said, it's been two years now, and the occasionally Lindsay (now 6) and Jeremy (now 8) will say things like "mommy why don't you kiss daddy" or vice versa. It doesn't happen often, but occasionally.
I guess a question I expect to get at some point in the future will be "whose decision was it to break up". I can tell you, I know how I'd like to answer that question. But I probably won't.