Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I can't figure out what to do with myself now. I have more time on my hands than I am used to. I feel fidgety.
I don't know where to begin with a social life and I am feeling very cautious about where I go and who I am around. My friends are almost all married.
I started looking to pick up extra work on the week-ends. I would like to save money to buy myself a place in a few years...
I could go back to school and get a master's degree but I have no clue what I would want to get it in and then there's the student loans.... and then it would be forever before I buy my own home again...
I have been taking Spanish lessons and have gotten pretty good so I could keep doing that.... There's a book club I've been wanting to join.... It's been hard to focus and concentrate on anything but I know in a few weeks I'll be climbing the walls looking for things to do.
I don't know where to start. I absolutely don't know what I want. My life was on such a different track just a few weeks ago and I don't know what to do now. Right now, I only know what I DON'T want.
Is this normal?
I don't know where to begin with a social life and I am feeling very cautious about where I go and who I am around. My friends are almost all married.
I started looking to pick up extra work on the week-ends. I would like to save money to buy myself a place in a few years...
I could go back to school and get a master's degree but I have no clue what I would want to get it in and then there's the student loans.... and then it would be forever before I buy my own home again...
I have been taking Spanish lessons and have gotten pretty good so I could keep doing that.... There's a book club I've been wanting to join.... It's been hard to focus and concentrate on anything but I know in a few weeks I'll be climbing the walls looking for things to do.
I don't know where to start. I absolutely don't know what I want. My life was on such a different track just a few weeks ago and I don't know what to do now. Right now, I only know what I DON'T want.
Is this normal?
deleted_user
It is normal. I remember in the beginning, I couldn't concentrate--always fidgety--even a twinge of panic now ant then. I'm a decision maker and couldn't decide what to make for dinner--it didn't help that I wasn't hungry ;) Anyway, this phase does pass. Then your right--get out there and do something!
deleted_user
Yes, either this or immobilizing grief sound normal. Your problem is better!
deleted_user
lilsam, if it is not normal, then i am abnormal too. I bounce all over the place when my girls are with their mom. I am glad that the judge saw the truth and made good decision. But this new life is hard.
deleted_user
I know what you mean. my husband just left me so he could have children with someone else... I have no children. It has been humiliating and degrading at the same time. i have all this anger and bitterness about the unfiarness of the situation. i am also going through this stage of working out what I have to do with my time. Before now my time would be spent looking after his needs. but now I don't know what to do. i dabber between leaving the country and doing a degree and a complete life change to numb the pain and be somewhere where I dont have to think about it..... I am relieved to hear I am normal and this behaviour or phase is a process we will go through before life settles again. Hang in there.
deleted_user
Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Keep busy and you will find your path eventually.
deleted_user
Stay busy and keeping learning new things like you are doing, sounds heathy and productive.
deleted_user
I know what you are going through. I feel like I am lost. I go to work and come home, that it. Didnt have friends family was everything. I cant go to school because it will take away from seeing kids. Cant get 2nd job because she will just get more money. Dont get me wrong I give my kids everything. I just dont know where to turn or who to talk to. Other than you guys.
deleted_user
I am in the same boat. I have no clue as to what I really want. All I know is that I have bought and read so many self help books that I could start my own book store!
Join the Conversation
-
I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
-
Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel
