Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I can't figure out what to do with myself now. I have more time on my hands than I am used to. I feel fidgety.
I don't know where to begin with a social life and I am feeling very cautious about where I go and who I am around. My friends are almost all married.
I started looking to pick up extra work on the week-ends. I would like to save money to buy myself a place in a few years...
I could go back to school and get a master's degree but I have no clue what I would want to get it in and then there's the student loans.... and then it would be forever before I buy my own home again...
I have been taking Spanish lessons and have gotten pretty good so I could keep doing that.... There's a book club I've been wanting to join.... It's been hard to focus and concentrate on anything but I know in a few weeks I'll be climbing the walls looking for things to do.
I don't know where to start. I absolutely don't know what I want. My life was on such a different track just a few weeks ago and I don't know what to do now. Right now, I only know what I DON'T want.
Is this normal?
I don't know where to begin with a social life and I am feeling very cautious about where I go and who I am around. My friends are almost all married.
I started looking to pick up extra work on the week-ends. I would like to save money to buy myself a place in a few years...
I could go back to school and get a master's degree but I have no clue what I would want to get it in and then there's the student loans.... and then it would be forever before I buy my own home again...
I have been taking Spanish lessons and have gotten pretty good so I could keep doing that.... There's a book club I've been wanting to join.... It's been hard to focus and concentrate on anything but I know in a few weeks I'll be climbing the walls looking for things to do.
I don't know where to start. I absolutely don't know what I want. My life was on such a different track just a few weeks ago and I don't know what to do now. Right now, I only know what I DON'T want.
Is this normal?
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It is normal. I remember in the beginning, I couldn't concentrate--always fidgety--even a twinge of panic now ant then. I'm a decision maker and couldn't decide what to make for dinner--it didn't help that I wasn't hungry ;) Anyway, this phase does pass. Then your right--get out there and do something!
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Yes, either this or immobilizing grief sound normal. Your problem is better!
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lilsam, if it is not normal, then i am abnormal too. I bounce all over the place when my girls are with their mom. I am glad that the judge saw the truth and made good decision. But this new life is hard.
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I know what you mean. my husband just left me so he could have children with someone else... I have no children. It has been humiliating and degrading at the same time. i have all this anger and bitterness about the unfiarness of the situation. i am also going through this stage of working out what I have to do with my time. Before now my time would be spent looking after his needs. but now I don't know what to do. i dabber between leaving the country and doing a degree and a complete life change to numb the pain and be somewhere where I dont have to think about it..... I am relieved to hear I am normal and this behaviour or phase is a process we will go through before life settles again. Hang in there.
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Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Keep busy and you will find your path eventually.
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Stay busy and keeping learning new things like you are doing, sounds heathy and productive.
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I know what you are going through. I feel like I am lost. I go to work and come home, that it. Didnt have friends family was everything. I cant go to school because it will take away from seeing kids. Cant get 2nd job because she will just get more money. Dont get me wrong I give my kids everything. I just dont know where to turn or who to talk to. Other than you guys.
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I am in the same boat. I have no clue as to what I really want. All I know is that I have bought and read so many self help books that I could start my own book store!
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