25 years of marriage seems to be going down the drain. My husband is an alcholic. When we first married I knew he drank but it didn't seem to bad. Over the years it has become worse. for the last 15years he would go on drinking binges not coming home for days. During this time I can not find him and he will not answer his cell phone. When I questioned him about it he would tell me that he was just drinking and that nothing else was going on. He would say things like...who would want me I'm a drunk. Anyway about 2 years ago I listened to the messages on his cellphone (Iknow ..I know) and he had 3 messages from a girl he met in a bar. She told him she wanted to get together over the weekend and finish what they started in his car. I confronted him about it and he said that they did some heavu petting but did not have sex. He said that it meant nothing. It meant everything to me. She continued to call him until he left a message on his phone asking her to stop. By the way this was about 3 hours from where we live as that is where he worked at the time. At the time he seem to be tring very hard mot to drink. We did the counseling thing and seemed to be making things work but I have never been able to forget this. It still bothers me today. He has started drink again and staying out at bars. I really need someone to talk to about all of his but have kept people at a distnce as I was afraid of what they might think of me so now I don't have any real friends and don't know here to turn. I know I don't trust him but I'm not sure if I'm ready to give up on us. I still love him very much. One thing that keeps going through my head is: Once a cheater always a cheater. I talked to a lawyer but just couldn't bring myself to file the papers.....am I just being a total idiot?
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