I was wondering what is normal to take in a marriage and what makes things unacceptable. Here's some examples: Okay, what's the difference between accepting someone for who they are-loving them unconditionally and them being a complete ass once in a while? Where do you draw the line? One or two moments of just saying and doing stupid things or being stressed, irritated, and unkind (not to say he's mean, just not nice) for a couple of days or more, what's acceptable? You can't expect people to always say and do the nicest most wonderful thing, I'm not always in the best mood and I wonder sometimes if I'm being unrealistic to expect my husband to be pleasant even when he's stressed out. I believe in all of that business about only you can make yourself happy, and I do try to let some things go so that I won't be full of resentment- but I think other people- can do things to make your miserable. I mean if you're in a good mood and enjoying an outing you can't just pretend someone isn't being an asshole and crapping all over the moment and not let it affect you, right? I'm really trying hard to make things work with my husband, and I believe it takes both of us working hard, and I know it's not always going to be perfect. But when he starts making my life harder than it has to be, when I feel like he's not adding anything to it, when he squishes the good spirit right out of me- I just don't know why I keep trying so hard.
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