Quit talking to him--that really throws him out of balance. Plus you don't need to hear his hurtful bitter crap. What purpose does it serve!

I agree with zippid.

I agree, quit talking to him...they cannot handle being rejected when they are used to being the ones doing it.

Yeah, let him drown his sorrows on a bar stool. Stop talking to him.

Ann, I asked my stbx that a couple of years ago,and I am still waiting for an answer besides "I thought we could work well together." That's a reason to hire someone, not marry them.

I know the reason, because he knew I would do anything he asked me to.... and I did for a long while. Till I realized that while I was dancing around him, he was drunk and had passed out....

The reason he married me was because "at that time we had been together a long time and it was either break up or get married and I didn't want to break up" OUCH :(

The reasons he left me
a. we are not meant for eachother and never will be.
b. He is not in love naymore
c. We have different interests and want different things out of life
d. He wants to live life with no regrets
e. He wants to live everyday as if it is the last.
f. I deserve better
g. He wants me to be happy

and my favourite:

"I am doing what is best for both of us and one day you will understand that and thank me for it.

damn, you laides are ruthless! I'm glad I'm not in a relationship anymore!

Stop talking to him. He hurts you because he doesn't know where to go from here.

Your stbx is a real winner. It's interesting that you bring this up. The night before I found out about my stbx's infidality I asked him this same question. He couldn't look me in the face. He looked at his feet & couldn't answer me. It was at that moment I knew we were done. He use to say I was the best looking girl around & his best friend. Man, that moment hurt.

Again, limit your communcation with him. He's not worth the effort.

My loser husband gave me all sorts of "reasons", but my particular favorite was "I just don't have what it takes to be married".
WTF?

My x told me that we weren't compatible. It hurt at the time but it's very true. I have morals. He doesn't. I am kind. He isn't. I am loyal. He isn't. I am a good law abiding person. He is a criminal. I am pretty straight and narrow. He's a liar and a cheater. Yes...I'd definitely say that we aren't compatible. Thank you Lord!!!

I don't know....I just don't know what I want. That's all I ever got.

Apparently what she wanted was someone who drinks, runs around on her (and her him), and kicks the crap out of her once a month or so, and to nearly alienate herself from her children. But hey...I did apologize once for not being man enough to give her those things that she apparently so desired. She didn't find it very amusing...Ce La Vie

I think mine married me for the lifestyle, and he cheated because of it as well. He resented me after awhile - I went from trophy wife he could brag about to out-shining him. Now peeps, I ain't braggin here - it wasn't hard to outshine him. So he found a nice ex-convict with no money and a father figure need to have an affair with. Kai Bai - have fun!
Now, STOP TALKING TO HIM - boy has some serious growing up to do if doin' bars and drinking is his idea of total fun. Yuck - at times, sure, all the time, no. Hugs to you!

mine said " I never really saw you as a long term thing"

Beat that !!!!

Now that's tore up right there!