Ok..this is not to offend anyone..but i have to get it off my chest. as far as i can tell responses on these discussion lists vary , but most people generally seem to reply with " counseling...prayer....let it go (my personal favorite).....be the bigger person....rise above it..." O kay, i am sure there are more, but my point is... what is so wrong with bitching and being angry? My ex "let it go" within 3 months of filing for divorce. i personally think he has to be a sick...cold ..emotionless bastard to let 12 years go that easily. I t takes him longer than that to get over a bad round of golf! i know that it is unhealthy and un christian to harbour anger, resntment, jealousy,etc.... but really....isn't it normal to feel these things when you have lost what you thought was forever. No on gets married and plans their wedding with plans for divorce in the future....you plan for a home...kids college...retirement...even injury and death...but you don't plan for divorce. so what is so wrong with getting things off your chest? duh...we all know we need to pray , go to counseling, move on with our lives, etc....but really how much counseling can one person take and what is a reasonable, respectable amount of time to allow yourself to hate the bastard...before you have to "LET IT GO!"
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