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What is wrong with me?

deleted_user
deleted_user
How can it be that bad? I am ready to forsake my house and my children to never set foot in it again. Everywhere I turn is a scorching scathing reminder of what was. It tears and burns at my heart and my soul. She constantly asks me to come spend the night with the children so she can have a night off. She is disappointed because I only spend less than 20 hours with them a week. But I am supposed to be strong in front of her. and I feel like I want to die. When I leave, I beg for the mercy of death. I fear that on this path I will not survive. I need to find a new self, and grow, and learn to heal and be stronger. Does that mean that I leave everything I care about and love behind? That is not what I'm supposed to do. I am asked to be a platonic friend and nothing more. I have crossed the threshold of the dark midnight of my soul. I am in utter darkness.
deleted_user
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Are you seeing a therapist? You sound really depressed (understandably so). The one thing (besides DS) that I do is see a counselor.

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diemjs
diemjs
I have been there my friend. And as hard as it is to believe, it will get better. Hold on, its a bumpy ride, but it does get better. I will pray for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Is there any way that the kids could spend time with you are your residence why does it have to be on her turf. I would also check with counciling it could help you figure out what path you need to take
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes love can be so unbearable, heart wrenching pain. You have already started the process of finding a new self, grown and learn to
heal and be stronger, that is why you are here. We feel, and have felt your pain on a daily basis...sometimes every minute of every day...we are here for you to walk beside you and give you strength and words of wisdom when sometimes you cannot find them yourself. if you fall, we will help you up...we are here for you, YOU are NOT ALONE! HUGS Phoenix, lots of hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with counseling, you would be surprised how much better you will feel, and the counselor can help you map out a plan. Also, my suggestion is to see your children on your terms, eventually you can work towards something more amicably.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are greving the loss of your marriage. I imagine seeing her in her care freeway being so flippant about her new life on your time is deplorable and very hurtful. If at all possible change things up. Bring the kids to your house or your family's house to stay. Don't go and stay in your marital house. I also agree when it get's overwhelming let go of the pride and ask for help. Counselors, meds, divorce care, physical outlets at the YMCA or something. You owe it to your kids to show them how to weather adversity. You are a strong individual. Use your resources and take care of yourself.

Lean on us. We care that you are hurting and we will be her for you.
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