
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
From experience with my own ex, it's easy to feel like your being sucked back in. I remind myself that we have a history and have 3 children together. I don't allow it to be personal feelings of affection towards him because no matter how good the hug feels from him, all the current problems remain and nothing has changed.
Nostalgia is a wonderful feeling and I often find myself saying, "Maybe I should give it one more chance." I now have a rule for myself. If I say that to myself, my hard and fast rule is to give it a couple days to see if it passes. By then my ex has usually done some mindless stupid thing to then make me say, "Oh yeah, that's why I am divorcing your lousy ass!" and the feeling passes.
There's nothing wrong with you Rick. The fact that your questioning whether you're being sucked in or not is a good sign.
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Carolyn