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What is wrong with me?

deleted_user
deleted_user
I wrote an entry in my journal tonight and I just need some type of reality/sanity check from someone. I don't know if I was sucked into the game again or if I stepped back into it or both. Confusion reigns.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think you were sucked back in. It sounds like you were bonding on the level of being concerned parents. It's now up to you to make sure you don't let those moments "suck you back in" to getting hurt.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I replied to your journal entry.. and I wish there was more I could say or do to help you!
Thriver
Thriver
I wouldn't read too much into it. People get emotional about their kids. Just try to go on as if it never happened.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Jamie.
From experience with my own ex, it's easy to feel like your being sucked back in. I remind myself that we have a history and have 3 children together. I don't allow it to be personal feelings of affection towards him because no matter how good the hug feels from him, all the current problems remain and nothing has changed.
Nostalgia is a wonderful feeling and I often find myself saying, "Maybe I should give it one more chance." I now have a rule for myself. If I say that to myself, my hard and fast rule is to give it a couple days to see if it passes. By then my ex has usually done some mindless stupid thing to then make me say, "Oh yeah, that's why I am divorcing your lousy ass!" and the feeling passes.
There's nothing wrong with you Rick. The fact that your questioning whether you're being sucked in or not is a good sign.
Bless
Carolyn
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