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ok, I have had very little sleep this week, I have a cold coming on and I was crying last night so my eyes are puffed out.
so... I have to run over to our bank (last account we - the stbx and I - shared) I was keeping it opened in order to make sure payments were made on life insurance. anyway, I got a call at 8am from the bank telling me it was overdrawn??? by a few hundred $$ I called the stbx and asked him what is going on??? long and short of it, time to close this account down, crying more, get in the car and get to the bank to close the thing.
now, picture this...... 40something lady, with a teen boy in tow, puffed out eyes, hair barely combed, NO make-up - I WAS in clean clothing. totally beat.
so.....
I go into a computer store to check out xmas gift for teen - and this very nice man, after selling me a computer is chatting with me as I walk out. outside, he gets his busniess card out (this was a small store which does remakes on computers for resale), and he writes his cell# down and smiles and tells me "if you need to talk over coffee, please call, ok?" ....
ok...... I am way out of pratice here. I start thinking (no sleep remember?).... was this a pick-up? or was he thinking "poor little lady?" - so I go into another store and take a look at myself in the mirror....I sure look BEAT and kindof sad..... but..... it sure felt like he was interested.
it has been almost 1 yr since I was with my ex. maybe .... my hormones are sending out signals??? LOL
so...
do you think this was a pick-up or a "poor little lady" deal?
he is a little younger but not by much. in fact, I was thinking while I was in the store that he was too young and changed my thought pattern, then the cell# deal. I'm so tired I can't think this one out.....
I would be embarrassed if I called him and he was not interested.... don't need anymore pity parties...
so... I have to run over to our bank (last account we - the stbx and I - shared) I was keeping it opened in order to make sure payments were made on life insurance. anyway, I got a call at 8am from the bank telling me it was overdrawn??? by a few hundred $$ I called the stbx and asked him what is going on??? long and short of it, time to close this account down, crying more, get in the car and get to the bank to close the thing.
now, picture this...... 40something lady, with a teen boy in tow, puffed out eyes, hair barely combed, NO make-up - I WAS in clean clothing. totally beat.
so.....
I go into a computer store to check out xmas gift for teen - and this very nice man, after selling me a computer is chatting with me as I walk out. outside, he gets his busniess card out (this was a small store which does remakes on computers for resale), and he writes his cell# down and smiles and tells me "if you need to talk over coffee, please call, ok?" ....
ok...... I am way out of pratice here. I start thinking (no sleep remember?).... was this a pick-up? or was he thinking "poor little lady?" - so I go into another store and take a look at myself in the mirror....I sure look BEAT and kindof sad..... but..... it sure felt like he was interested.
it has been almost 1 yr since I was with my ex. maybe .... my hormones are sending out signals??? LOL
so...
do you think this was a pick-up or a "poor little lady" deal?
he is a little younger but not by much. in fact, I was thinking while I was in the store that he was too young and changed my thought pattern, then the cell# deal. I'm so tired I can't think this one out.....
I would be embarrassed if I called him and he was not interested.... don't need anymore pity parties...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You should meet for coffee.
Young guys are into older woman..something I learned when I became single again.
LOl at your story..reminded me of when i was recently Divorced and my 6 yr old talked me into a trip to the convenience store..at night. I went..in my Christmas pajama bottoms..and a really cute guy starts talking to me. I was too embarassed to do much talking back.
I don't do that anymore. Single means no more christmas pajamas at the store.
If you are interested call him. Or..stop back into the store..soon.
Good luck.
that was a pick up line sweety.. hey.. nothing ventured nothing gained.. maybe this is the opportunity to practice your being out there with real adults again.
Call him.. do it.. meet for a coffee.. and tell him you really appreciated him giving you his number and yes.. you would like to have an adult to talk to.
ok, off to bed to get some sleep so I can be together when I call him up for that coffee date!
night all! :)
Might be a sicko--might not. Did he notice your son? Did he try and talk to you both, or just you? I am just doing the survival thing--don't want someone thinking you are vunerable. There are a lot of takers out there.
Just be careful. I would not call--to private. Be in a crowded well lighted place.
he did notice my son, but kept his comments to directed at me and they were appropriate for the setting.
I will met him in a coffee place by the store, lots of very public places.
but... you are right, sickos are there.
thanks for your support and feedback.
p.s. well rested and, today I do look GREAT! :)
first impressions count alot with me. I was in sales for so long, I'm very good at reading people.
I think I will go back to the store to ask some more computer questions, then check him out again (without the teen).
if I still get "good" signals, I'll meet him for coffee or a game of bowling? and see how it goes.
we all have to start somewhere, right. he may be just what he seems, a nice younger man who is interested in me.
I'll be safe, but if we sit on the sidelines of life, we never get to carry the ball and score a touchdown!