stbx has been saying for a bit that he needs to get out - think things out. He's been gone a lot, but we're not separated. He is not having an affair, unless I'm a real idiot, but I truly don't believe this is the case. More of a mid-life crisis (loved the post). He was hinting he was looking at places to rent, and I nearly convinced him to say (he was waivering - and I still think we can work through this). Finally 2 weeks ago, he said he was leaving, and was signing a lease for a townhouse 35 miles away and a one year lease. I was devastated, but managed to get into work the next day figuring that was the only thing I could try to do, be keep myself from going into a state of nearly crazy, and luckily had an appointment with the therapist right after work. Later I found out that my husband, who told me he was leaving had spend the next day at home crying most of the day, he couldn't go into work? It's not that I an not a real emotional person, I am and my emotions are on edge too - it just that the thought of staying home and alone with my thoughts seemed so much worse than trying to into work and keeping myself as occupied as I could. And - OK I realize that there is some loss he 'might' be feeling, but to be that upset - I mean I would guess there might have been some type of relief for himself in that he had finally told me? What's going on? Would this be a normal reaction for someone who just announced they were leaving? If he is that broken up about this, why is he doing this? He's reason has been he's made a decision and he's not changing it (he actually seems really depressed to me.) He said his emotions are raw and he can't deal with any more, won't consider that there are other alternatives to healing other than leaving - especially that I am willing. A few days before in a state of anger he said he wanted to divorce me, and then after that he said, maybe we'll see where we are in a year. We have no plans for any type of counseling - and frankly I don't know what this even means - that he is filing for divorse, or just leaving for awhile. We only merged household 4 years ago, so a lot of stuff here is his and he's moving it all out. What is this?
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