It means she's immature.

No you are not wrong, she is selfish.

They use the "I am not in love with me" as an excuse.
I am not "IN LOVE" with my H the way I was 5 years ago. But that is normal and you don't leae people for that!

I'd think she's lying.
She doesn't love you more than anything.
she's not happy and wants to go her own way, but doesn't have the words to say that.
So she's telling you in a way that she thinks will hurt you less. She doesn't understand that what you need is the truth.
IMHO.

The question can be very sunjective, I say you ask her what she means and you might get more to the heart of why she is unhappy in being married.

I know that we obviously do not have the "giddy, tingly" feeling of falling IN love, that is all it is...falling IN LOVE.....once you are past that....you are WITHIN love.

It means she is confused about what love is. She needs to take a good hard look before she is willing to throw it all away.

Love isn't always about butterflies, rainbows and sunshine.
Especially when it comes to a marriage.
The feelings we have when we first meet someone, and in some cases marry them, do fade over time.
What you are describing sounds like someone who is trying to make everything -sound- like everything's okay while ignoring what the actual issue is.

I guess I can try and answer this question from my own experience.
Being in love is like a forest fire it has a life of it's own. It has a need for more and more fuel to keep it going. Finally it either uses up all it's fuel and dies out or it can smolder. It can also be a controlled burn that leave the land intact to renew itself. This is the type of "in love" that is the lasting type.
The other type of Loving is more like rain. It feeds and nurtures. It allows for growth and replinishment. It can be a gentle rain or a thunderstorm. But it always is a bringer of life and nourishment to the relationship.

The first type of love is shared with very few. The second type of love can be shared with anyone. And the first type of love can mature into the second type of love.

Okay that's my take on it.

Wow, I heard the same thing. I love you but I am NOT IN LOVE with you anymore!
What is love???? HERE, since I cannot think of it, definition...sad!!!!
1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests b : an assurance of love
2 : warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion
3 a : the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration

Patti's right. It means she is immature.

What "they" are looking for is that rush of new love and passion, the infatuation phase. They want that to last forever and think it is supposed to be that way.

Mature love is deeper than that and has a sweet contentment to it. Not as thrilling perhaps, but sounds good to me.

That's what my husband told me the day he said he was leaving me. he continues to tell me he loves, sorry I think it is a crock. Does she love you like a sister, friend etc. He was attracted to me enough to want sex. If that is love, I don't need it anymore. I hope decisions are made with the both of you. Good luck,

It doesn't add up...I hate to point this out, but is it possible she is having an affair? I have to also agree, she is immature. The butterflies disappear and grow into a deeper love. She might be misinterpreting the lack of butterflies. Definately probe deeper until you get to the bottom of it. Good luck!

I have no clue anymore to tell you the truth. My husband claims there are many types of love and you can change your mind a few times as well.

IMO, the "i love you but am not IN love with you" is a justification that weak people use to defend his/her actions.