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What is in a name????

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Ok ladies how many of your are keeping your married name? I am for losts of reasons. I just got into a discussion with my grandmother who seems to think that I need professional help for not going back to my birth name. I don't understand why it is such a big deal. Just because I am keeping the name doesn't mean that I am any different. I have just changed myself for the better. Anyone else out there tossing around the idea of keeping or switching there names back?

Any body who knows me knows that I love my grandmother dearly but I just can't take the comments that she makes sometimes.
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Totally keeping my name. Ex actually asked me early on if I was going to keep his last name. People think it's because of my children but it's not. I like the last name and it isn't that big of a deal.
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I am keeping my married name-- for one, it's shorter than my maiden name plus I've used my married name longer than I ever used my birth name.
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Kept may married name,, the judge denied my petition to change it back cause I had a minor child!
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Keeping my married name until I marry again..IF I marry again.
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It's a personal choice. I'm keeping my name because It's the name my children have. I want people to have no doubt who their mother is.

I love my husband's family they have been very nice to me during our relationship. I'm sad that I've lost the relationship. I've also told my MIL that if she want's more interaction I would do what I could to provide it.
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I am glad I am not the only one my family is acting like I am crazy and some how "betraying" my roots or something like that
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Hell, She didn't even love me enought to drop her maiden name. Guess she knew she'd go back to it soon.
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My name plate at work will remain the same. My personal life is just that personal and when I'm ready for my co-workers to know I will fill them in. For as long as I've been in Maryland my life has been lived under this name...This is who I am..Now I have to introduce the old me to my new life.
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I took back my maiden name. I had been married to former husband (not recent ex to whom I was NOT married) for over 25 yrs. I felt that getting back to ME and finding myself was important and that this tiny symbol of th at would help me...well it didn't then..but it sure has now. My former husband is a decent fellow, a wonderful father to our son and a valued friend, who grew up with values just like my family.

The recent ex...well...not so much. When I see my family name on my checks, on my car title...on even my junk mail, it reminds me of t he values my family has. These are values his family lacks totally!

So for me..it turned into a "bigger deal"..and helped me find myself and my values. They got lost for a few years there!

Do what feels right for you.
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My Ex has remarried and is still using my my name because she can get all kinds of state support by not changing it. It really kinda pisses me off.
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#10 how on earth does that work? That isn't right
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It really doesn't matter to me cause as Shakesphere says, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet"!
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It really doesn't matter to me cause as Shakesphere says, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet"!
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#11,
When she left she applied for and got state health insurance, foodstamos and welfare, married her boyfriend and doesn't want to report it, she'll lose too much
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I'm going back to my maiden name, there is no way I would keep a name that means nothing to me anymore.
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