Open the lines of communication... se if there's anything left to salvage. JMO

you could answer her nicely but don't put to much back to get burned again. That way your not being mean but careful

Well, she took 2 months to write. Why be hasty in your reply? Have your feelings, try to get your center back, and let it ride for a while.

If you want to talk to her, talk to her. Be careful, be kind, and cautious. I hope that doesn't sound too pessimistic. Just protect yourself.

Honestly, talking with my stbx helped and helps a lot. It gives me an understanding of his POV and I try to give him mine. We have our battles sometimes. In my mind I know that I love him and he loves me but it just won't work out.

I want and dread that email. It is not good for me to stir up the pot at this point. Of course, my sbtx is with another man and as long as that is going on I don't really want to hear from her. She is out of the loop as far as me and her two kids are concerned. Each day that passes, I am getting over her in my life. I guess if it was me I would be very careful. I don't want to go backwards in healing.

I am no help, but I wish for the same. I always call (like an idiot) at least once a week. I was told by his parents to continue talking to him. I still have hope, and I think in YOUR mind you still hold on to hope.

not to get all bon jovi on ya, teach...but its your life.

Now or never time? Maybe. Statistics say its not a good play, but i dont know your circumstance. ive been known to throw caution to the wind myself on occasion, just be sure to measure the heart....the gut....and the mind if you do, bro.

Tough one...take what you head says, then take what your heart says and mix them up and hopefully you will get a balnaced answer out of your self. Hope it gose well for you.

Try typing up a few responses/letters what you would like to say....do not send them. Review them each day, see if it's what you want to say, what you want to feel. Frequently getting something down on paper helps you look at everything more. But best to have some time, to noodle on it before you send it. I wouldn't hurry anything along on your side. Do it only if you feel it is absolutely right. Good luck :)

i like juliks answer, write out a few of them, and then read them for a couple of days, then decide what you want to say, something that will keep your heart guarded. something that will not send you back to the beginning of the roller coaster and something that after you do it, you'll feel good about it and wont have to look back and think, i should not have said that, time is on your side, a few days won't matter. good luck

Would it be possible, in a return email, to thank her for her interest and to ask her if you can help?
I'm curious. You sent me an email, thank you. Is there something that I can help you with?
By being question-based you avoid confrontation and you seek motive. Since her voice is the most important voice in the world, your question allows her to hear the most important voice in the world. Knowing her motive and intent, you can decide how you wish to respond.