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After all the pain, the anger, and time, what is it that you have truly learned from your experience? What do you take away from it all?
For myself, I accepted early on that my life could be so much worse and tried to always be thankful that it was only an 'affair' that was my problem. That even though this man had hurt me beyond words, he was still alive, that my children were still healthy and with me,
I accepted that just maybe this was meant to be, this was my storm before the 'happiness' and that there is in fact a greater plan for my life.
My stbx, left almost a year ago and while it has been a long, painful year, still I have grown so much as an idividual.
I am closer to God, closer to my three daughters which I didn't think was possible, more patient, and instead of letting this make me bitter, I have let it make me become an even better person, more loving, more giving and caring. This has not made me scared to love again, it has made me more certain that at almost 40, I WILL love again and be loved
Our 'pain' can be our blessings if we see through them and wait for the answers.
For myself, I accepted early on that my life could be so much worse and tried to always be thankful that it was only an 'affair' that was my problem. That even though this man had hurt me beyond words, he was still alive, that my children were still healthy and with me,
I accepted that just maybe this was meant to be, this was my storm before the 'happiness' and that there is in fact a greater plan for my life.
My stbx, left almost a year ago and while it has been a long, painful year, still I have grown so much as an idividual.
I am closer to God, closer to my three daughters which I didn't think was possible, more patient, and instead of letting this make me bitter, I have let it make me become an even better person, more loving, more giving and caring. This has not made me scared to love again, it has made me more certain that at almost 40, I WILL love again and be loved
Our 'pain' can be our blessings if we see through them and wait for the answers.
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(taking sip of coffee)....
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1. I will survive this event called a Divorce.
2. My children are what keeps me focused.
3. Friends are important.
4. It helps to laugh, even though you want to cry.
I have learned so many things also.
To take responsibility for my poor decisions but not blame myself. Learn from them and make a better choice if that is presented again.
that forgiveness of myself helped me to grow as a person.
that If I want to truly give myself a chance to change any future that I may have, that I had to start with changing myself.. It has taken 3 years, but I can see light where there was darkness..
That I have chosen people that did not love me but that does not make me unlovable.
I have learned most of all how much I care for myself.. I have fallen in love with myself over the past three years as surely as anyone falls in love with someone..
I know that I have so much to offer and give, but will never settle for being 10th on someone else's list of importance. I am more important than that.
I , too, learned that an alcoholic has a skewed sense of truth and what is important to them.
Most of all I am thankful for my faith.. It has helped me climb out of the valley and see the mountains.. What a great post.. Thank you, Kimmee
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I am learning how to love myself.