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What does 'Working It Out' Mean?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Here's the perspective. 10 years of marriage, 4 children, one brought from previous. Deep love and great sex life etc... But communication problems, insecurity, etc... so now its entering month 3 of separation. I am doing my best in the father role, but it is on her terms, in our house, and when she would leave for the night, then that is unbearable for me. But my question is, if we are to 'work it out'... what does that exactly mean and entail? Is it move back in and become 'domestic partners'? Is it to give space? What is it? I am ready to take the first real steps and maybe have, but I have no idea what to do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Have you asked her these questions?
deleted_user
deleted_user
"Working it out" does not involve seeing other people, as a rule.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It never involes seeing other people but someone always does because they needed someone to "talk" to.

selfish is as selfish does.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
'working it out'...hmmmm.. sounds suspiciously like "taking time out"...or " taking a break"..

code in my book for:
I am seeing someone.
I am sleeping with someone.
I want out cos I am having an affair and I want to have it all.

so.. not sure .. but that is my take on that.

You should suggest you both go to counselling to figure out exactly what she means if you can not get a clear answer from her.

I am curious as to what these broad statements mean too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes I am aware she's got other stuff going on. It's funny how that's how we all read that...
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