OK, I did a little pleading the first 1.5 months since separation. Now I'm at the phase where I'm all business. I only want to talk to him about the kids and the finances. Occasionally I get a angry stab in but that Is even getting better. This is what I don't understand. He wants to do stuff for me. I DON'T WANT HIM. He asks for me to join him with the kids. I say NO! He threw this family away he can't have it on a temporary basis. I have no intrest in being his nanny, friend, sometime lover, or anything else. I'm just the chromosomes that created his kids.

Mind you he left most likely affairs and addiction to porn lifestyle. Most likely acting out in the community. Some evidence that he may be playing both sides of the fence (bisexual)?

So I have this converstion with him. I prefer just to text him with critical info about the kids. But he always calls. I never call unless its an emergency or an illness with the kids. Done that only 2x. I text him telling him that his very mildly autistic son is having medical problems, not eating well, food allergies and recent weight loss (4lbs over 3 months). The doctors have ordered a CT and Upper GI to be done under sedation. So I tell him about that and I tell him about our Haloween plans. He CALLS.... bla bla bla says he is working more to support us bla bla tries to tell me about his day...I'm not interested. Then he asks "Is there anything you need?" God this infuriates me. I need nothing from a man who threw me away except his damn money. He need to pay up to support this family until I can get my son's health stabilized and my career back on track. Leave me alone.

So what is this whay does he say crap like that? Does he really think I'm that dependent. Is he patronizing me? That's how it feels to me. Any ideas on how to shut this comment down. He keeps saying this. He says this and then he says he'll mow my lawn for me and paint my house for me if I want him to. What is this crap?