My husband and I have been having problems for a while. He works out of town right now and that is not helping matters.

I had a falling out with my hubby's family a while back, long story. Anyways, my husband's brother hadn't spoken to him for about a year, after it happened, he was afraid to call the house (don't know why) and when I finally gave his cel # to my mother in law, she gave it to his brother and they connected within minutes.

After that, my husband started becoming distant, and wanted a divorce, and things were pretty ok before that. I had to try to understand what was going on, with the sudden shift and try to knock some sense into him, so to speak.

I have done some dumb things too though. I peeked on my hubby's email and saw that he had asked his brother to visit him at our trailer, which my hubby was living in out of town for work. He realized I think that I saw this email and they stopped emailing on it. But, that Friday before the weekend, I talked with hubby on the phone and said so is your brother there, and he just became silent and then denied it. I know his brother would have gone to see him if he was asked. And when he came home and I asked again, he just denied it again and said I couldn't prove anything. Kinda wierd.

I have also seen other emails too and deleted them, from his mother (only once and his brother). I think he found out about this too. I know it was wrong. But they were rude to me and my hubby wouldn't say anything.

Now, it has gotten to the point, and I never thought it ever would, but I believe he talks bad about me to his family sometimes, talks to his family by texting etc. and never tells me. If I ask him things he says I'm accusing him of something. We can be having a pretty good time and all of a sudden he will just say something or do something horrible or cruel. Which sets me off. He texts me and says things like "I could get any guy I wanted" or when I have said I love him, he will say "Y, I suck at relationships". He runs hot and cold though, because he will say he loves me too at times. He is telling my daughter that I'm jealous of her (she's in her teens) which is absurd. And I caught him in a lie regarding my daughter. It's like he wants me to be mad at him, so he can justify leaving, I don't know. He has even resorted to saving texts I've sent, the negative ones. He doesn't save any of the good ones, and there are alot. Like he's saving them for something. So I watch what I send.

What does anyone make of this behaviour. Does this sound like a guy that just wants out. His behaviour is bizarre and I thought I would always be able to count on him. He was my rock at one time.

There's more but it would be hard to write all of it.