Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
We all mourn for what is being done to us or what we are doing to another. Heck I see a post of people who were the ones who cheated looking for support??
I believe in love, I believe in all that it is worth, I believe that it is a gift, I believe in all the value it is. It is what guides us, protects us, comfort us it is the ultimate gift that each person gives to each other. I get it we all face it and struggle with it but do we really see the power of it. We try to control it and reason with it. Am I worng in wanting to stand my ground and fight for it and not let it go. Do I know the pain that I am adding to myself in doing so, yes I feel it everyday. It is the power of love that comes from God that is guiding me. Trust me I have analyzed this from every angle I have gotten every input from so many different people. It all comes down to what is guiding me, what is driving me. I know if divorce is going to happen I will sign the document that is presented in front of me by the courts but I am not going to file for a divorce I don't want. Everytime I think I have to do this and I start researching what needs to be done I have this instinct inside of me saying no, stop!! you are not going to do this. I don't know if I am being guided that I am not ready for this or if I am being guided that I need to hold on. I thought about all of this, trying to make sense of it trying to label it, is it obession, is it another form of denail? I can't explain it. All I know is I feel I need to wait and have faith to see what happens and have been trying to stop making things happen, maybe I just need to let things happen and just hold on to love for all it is worth. I know, I get it, it only is going to work if she starts feeling for it. I am willing to take the hurt and the pain until I am ready to see what happens it is truly in Gods hands.
Thank you for listening
I believe in love, I believe in all that it is worth, I believe that it is a gift, I believe in all the value it is. It is what guides us, protects us, comfort us it is the ultimate gift that each person gives to each other. I get it we all face it and struggle with it but do we really see the power of it. We try to control it and reason with it. Am I worng in wanting to stand my ground and fight for it and not let it go. Do I know the pain that I am adding to myself in doing so, yes I feel it everyday. It is the power of love that comes from God that is guiding me. Trust me I have analyzed this from every angle I have gotten every input from so many different people. It all comes down to what is guiding me, what is driving me. I know if divorce is going to happen I will sign the document that is presented in front of me by the courts but I am not going to file for a divorce I don't want. Everytime I think I have to do this and I start researching what needs to be done I have this instinct inside of me saying no, stop!! you are not going to do this. I don't know if I am being guided that I am not ready for this or if I am being guided that I need to hold on. I thought about all of this, trying to make sense of it trying to label it, is it obession, is it another form of denail? I can't explain it. All I know is I feel I need to wait and have faith to see what happens and have been trying to stop making things happen, maybe I just need to let things happen and just hold on to love for all it is worth. I know, I get it, it only is going to work if she starts feeling for it. I am willing to take the hurt and the pain until I am ready to see what happens it is truly in Gods hands.
Thank you for listening
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I have wanted to make this point a few times over the past month but I didn't. Not so much because I thought I'd be attacked, but I just didn't expect much support.
I also think it is mostly women, hurt women on this site, not to be overly sexist i believe because you all are more of an emotional creature there is a need to make things black and white. He either loves me and wants to get through this or he hates me and I will hate him back.
What about the middile ground something like our spouses are making the worst mistake of both our lives. Unfortunately we are being dragged down with them.
Standing I don't know how mean your wife is but she may sound just as emphatic as mine. "I'm done", "I don't want you anymore", "I want a divorce", "he makes me feel happy when he kisses me". These hurt full words makes me want to run right to the quickest fix available (though not completely rational, or all that quick) and just say F#$@#$ you too. Yet ass you say all I can do is wait for her to put those papers in front of me. Until then I will just cling, CLING TO THE GOD, AND THE LOVE I KNOW WAS THERE. She even denies ever loving me, from the time we first exchanged the words while dating through 7 years 4 1/2 of marriage, 2 children.
PLEASE SOMEBODY TELL ME THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE!
it's only been 2 months on the hell ride for me, and 2 weeks on my own in a new place with hardly a pot to piss in but I think (though it maybe just my imagination (or worse)) but she for instance over this little time and the few, very few conversations i have moved out has no longer yelled and screamed. Also the word Divorce has never even been uttered again.