I have been here before seeking advice. My husband says he is not happy, doesn't love me and wants a divorce, he has said this for about the past year. I know that he is not/has not seen anyone else. He is simply is not like that. But although he says all these things, he is still living here, we even (and the kids) went away for the labor day weekend. He won't take any action to get a divorce, separation. He won't talk except to say his feelings haven't changed, its to soon for them to, and he still feels the same about me. Also, he says he hasn't taken any action is because of the kids, and how it will effect them (excuse?). Indecision about any decision tells me that decision is not completely right for you yet. He has recently been sleeping on the couch. He says that sleeping in the bed with me, sends me the wrong message. He admits he is keeping his distance which he absolutely is. And he says that right now he can't give me what I want in this relationship and doesn't know if he ever will, because there has been so much damage between us and too soob since our last fight, that divorce is just a matter of time, yet he won't do anything to make it happen. This is very confusing because he knows I don't want a divorce and he is still here. He is still very nice to me, does things for me, just as if everything is ok, except show affection, he keeps his distance, doesn't want sex and says he doesn't love me. I am going to counseling without him, hoping that eventually he'll want to go. I need him to make some decisions, start the divorce process, work on our marriage, do something. But he won't. Is he waiting until I make the first move due to being fed up, (so he has no guilt), does he have it too good at home? What is he really saying with his inabilitily/indecision to take any action on his rant about wanting a divorce? Would love to hear a mans perspective too. Thanks
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