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When I first kicked my husband out..........he used the kids to get to me. We were in the middle of an argument and begged me not to leave him. Then my daughter walked downstairs into the study where we were sitting. This was immediately after our discussion and argument. He told my eight year old that mommy and daddy have something to tell you. It wasn't the right moment. I wasn't prepared, and then my daughter said she already knew. She started flipping out and crying saying that she knows we are going to divorce.
By the way, he also told my daughter if she lived with me then she would never be able to see him. I was furious!
She has told me before that she wants us to divorce, but I know the reality of this hits her also. Lately my children have been so temperamental; they cry alot. I know this is normal. They know something is going to happen. Has eveyone noticed a change in their children, or is it smooth sailing for anyone?
By the way, he also told my daughter if she lived with me then she would never be able to see him. I was furious!
She has told me before that she wants us to divorce, but I know the reality of this hits her also. Lately my children have been so temperamental; they cry alot. I know this is normal. They know something is going to happen. Has eveyone noticed a change in their children, or is it smooth sailing for anyone?
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Yeah it has affected all of mine, even the ones that are married and living away from home. This is what they have known all their lives. It seems that it changes from day to day who is being affected. My ten year old is the one who is acting lease affected, it worries me.
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i talked to all the guidance counselors and teachers at each of my kids schools. there is a divorcecare for kids too at manychurches. i also read read read so i can understand more and more. they say this can be something that impacts them forever and they even revisit this in their late teens or twenties..so sad
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my daughter is small. she was hitting me for a while and waking up nearly every night with nightmares. it was really hard. i just tried to be patient, acted relaxed as much as I could and always encouraged her relationship with her father. if she misses him we draw him a picture. i even try to hug him goodbye in front of her. it makes her really happy to see us cooperate. it is really hard for me because he could be a better dad, but she really needs him and i hope that he will get better for her. i recommend the book "Mom's House, Dad's House". she is seeing the normalcy and routine of everything after 4 months, but it is a lot for her. i wish it was different. good luck.
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I feel very fortunate that my 8 year old daughter seems to be just fine. Throughout the entire ordeal I assured her that we would all be just fine and always love her. For a month or so she was testing us but now I am closer to her than ever and that is a great feeling!
keepthehope
My daughter is 8 as well, she knows what is going on and I keep talking to her to let her know that she is loved. She told me one day at the park she was confused. I asked about what and she said that going back and forth made her feel that way. I felt so sad. I told her that the reason I moved just around the corner was to be close for her and that if the week to week change was to much that we would talk together as a family to see what we could do about it. I am in no way using my kids during this seperation,it can be so easy to do that but I am not that way. My 2 year old son seems to show sadness more. It breaks my heart. It is never easy on everyone. The best thing that we all can do is make sure the kids are doing good and not to let our problems effect them so much and if they do that you help them. I love my kids and they are on the top of my list and my life.
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