You will always be a dad. That never goes away. Now is the time to examine your life and set new goals and follow your dreams. Forget about being single. Just work on yourself and doing what makes you happy. Spend time with your children and be the best dad that you can be. I'm in the same boat and I know it's hard. But we can do this!

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I went around looking at me from the ouside for over 4 years.

It was Therapy.

I gave myself time to heal.

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My divorce should be over tomorrow also I understand the emotional stuff being over too but I guess I have just been focusing on the kids first then me. But I have been learning how to take the time for me when I need it.

find yourself, what is truely you, and allow yourself to grow. Try no hobbies, which will allow you to meet new friends. Enjoy life, freedom from being out from you situation. best wishes

My divorce was final in Jan but some financial things are still straggling. After 39 years of marriage (I was married when I was 5 ;), mostly spent in denial, I still have a lot of unresolved feelings to deal with. I wish I had an answer for you, but I'm not doing anything except working on anger issues, forgiving him & me for staying so long and learning to trust myself again.

Yes being a dad is ajob that will never end.

You know one thing I have been doing is getting in touch with old friends I have not seen in years. I use to travel alot years ago and made many new friends. Also lot of my close friends have moved around the counrty and I have seen a few of them.

But make a plan and work on it, no time schedule, just work on it when you have the time.

It took me a long time to be someone other than just mom and wife. I did not date until I had been separated almost 5 years. I did do things to become a richer (not money-wise) and better person though. I went back to school and got a graduate degree. I began working in a new field. I developed a lot of good friendships and did a lot in my community and my church. I think I needed that time. I'm still mom and I'm still an ex-wife, but now I'm a lot more ME than I was before. Develop and pursue some new interests and see how you grow!

Most men I know starting a new life going to the gym. Start there or the YMCA. Then find a church with a divorce care class or a singles meeting. Go to meetup.com and join a poker game meet up or something else. Google Single dating and your city. My city 350000 people even has speed dating at some restaurants...I might try that once. Then there is parents without partners they have meetings. If your handy you could go do a habitat for humanity mission project. If you have a skill or trade offer to teach in a class or seminar. Or just go down town and hand out Hugs for a day. That could get interesting.