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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I haven't been for years. I was married to a pot smoking, introvert (not one friend) loner. At family functions, he would hole up in a room where others were not. He said "he should never have gotten married nor had kids (yeah, shock)..His time at home was party poker, being stoned, no interest in anything yet I HUNG ON!!!! Since my son dies, I have been in a lot of therapy (that was used against me by him) "Pam, my God, you have been in therapy for years." But, I never talked about anything but how unhappy I was, why couldn't he give, why, why, why?? I was (am) married to a unemotional, uncaring, empty shell of a person, but I kept trying, I did it all!
Now, what makes us so addicted to these people that hurt us, dumped us, tell us they are not in love? I doubt he could ever truly love, too into himself. Why are we hurting so bad over someone who GAVE UP ON US?
I was not happy, I am not happy and I need to find me again. I am somewhere under this robe and I am a good person who does not deserve such an empty relationship. I will still lose it, cry, hurt but the tears seem WASTED on NOTHING, nothing was there!
Now, what makes us so addicted to these people that hurt us, dumped us, tell us they are not in love? I doubt he could ever truly love, too into himself. Why are we hurting so bad over someone who GAVE UP ON US?
I was not happy, I am not happy and I need to find me again. I am somewhere under this robe and I am a good person who does not deserve such an empty relationship. I will still lose it, cry, hurt but the tears seem WASTED on NOTHING, nothing was there!
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If this breakup hadn't occurred, you and I are the kids of people who would have stuck it out and found happiness in the relationship. But fate has a different plan for us. The adventure of life is not over for us. Better times are coming.
I think she's the one who made a mistake, and I see this as an opportunity to "leave home" and "grow up" on my own.
She was with her parents 24 years, with me 24 years, so now she can do what she wants for the next 24 LOL.
It still hurt like hell when he had an affair and then decided to end our marriage. But I think a lot of that was the feeling of rejection.
I just didn't have the courage to be the one to leave.
His response stuck with me because it's true -- I spent 9 years with this man. I had three children with him, I kissed him every morning before we left for work, I slept every night with the sound of his breathing next to me.
I care even for the stranger that slips on the ice walking into the grocery store. I care enough to run over to her and help her out. Why wouldn't I care for him? The difference is that the stranger wouldn't pull me down with her and then laugh at me for falling.
Some put too much weight on Happiness. No one walks around in bliss all the time. Happiness like all other feelings is an occational thing. Being content with reality is the trick.
Too many Ophat, and Dr. Fill shows out there. People looking for unrealistic emotional state at expence of never finding happiness again I think.
Just my twisted opinion here. Everyone has to find themselves to be truely happy.
I don't blame him for that, I definitely let things move too fast in our relationship. I just didn't know him well enough until after we were married.
But I was never secure, because of his irresponsibility.
And over time i just couldn't be happy while i watched our world crumble around us.
I have to live in reality.
We were a "couple"...hard to allow myself to admit that time, or think about it...so short...so gone.
I am a happy person, within myself. I just wanted to be happy WITH Him. It was never meant to be.
He mistreated me from the beginning but I never saw it. It was so normal to grow up in an emotionally void home to marry a man who treated me badly was the norm to me.
I hope he moves on and find whatever he is looking for, cause he treate me like garbage....
ya know.. God doesnt make junk.