That had to feel like a ton of bricks! OUCH!! Move on.

Sorry to hear that blah. Hope your doing okay.

Wow, now I'm in shock. How did he find this stuff out? You mean to say he flew all that way just to save lil ol you? I don't know about this blah. Kinda sounds fishy to me.

I'm just angry Glenn. I'll be okay. I am grateful to the X though . Funny thing he saved me from a huge mistake. Cerriden the X has his faults, but he has his good points too. And he does a lot of things for lil ol me he doesn't have to do AT ALL. Wouldn't be the fisrt time he's hired detectives. He has done it in the past on employees.

I hope you have all the facts on this situation before you throw it away. If this is really the truth of this guy, I wouldn't want him either. What a user!

Well I just called Trish ( his sister). I tell her what the X told me and guess what she says??????????????????? She says " Yeah but they're lying. They're just greedy women that want money!" So I say " Trish while you were busy calling me warning me not to hurt your brother don't you think that might have been a good time to care enough about YOUR FRIEND and clue me in on that shit?" She says " Why should I it's all lies!" I tell her " ONE lie possibly. 3 lies - no way. Tell your brother not to call me and to stay away from me. And you can stop calling too."

DANG HUGE HEADACHE going for the tylenol PM I already took motrin and it didn't work.

I wonder if he will call you. Well, do what's best for you. Looks like you did already. Keep us posted if he calls. I feel your headache - so sorry!

He better not call me I'll teach him some names he don't already know. I'm okay cerriden I'm actually relieved. Yes I feel like an idiot but that will go away. AND it could have been so much worse. Really I swear when the X gets back I'm gonna bake him a thank you cake and give it to him.

Don't feel like an idiot, you didn't know. I'm glad you found out - WHEW! Bake that man a cake and another pan of lasagna.

I have a question for you: Did your X give you this much attention when you were with him?

OK, wait a minute. Three paternity actions filed- when, how far apart, by whom and what were the results? Could be that these things are years apart, Could be the same woman and/or her friends - some people are vindictive, could be that they are lies.
I understand your emotions but you really have been on a roller coaster for days now, take a minute and breathe. You ought to have a good talk with this man and hear his side- if it doesn't make sense then trust your gut but if it does then maybe what you really need is to do what you already decided- take things slow.

Thanx for saying all of that pangea because I didn't have the guts to.

Cerriden the X has always been EXTREMELY protective of me and he still is. He was very very good about taking care of business and providing comfort. He still is . He has kept his word on that one. And the X is right he ISN'T gullable or stupid. He made his current wife sign a pre nup. He said when he told her he was leaving her all she cared about was in this sentence " So I'm not even going to get that car , am I?" LOL He said he told her " Oh I'll get you the car and that's all you're getting." LOL

Pangea I don't know the details, but I do know I hate liars. I asked him if there was anything from his past I needed to know about. He had the perfect opportunity to speak up then. Worse than I hate liars I can't tolerate men who don't claim or support their own children. My sister got pregnant from a doctor and had my niece years ago. He never claimed that kid. She looked up her dad years later and he STILL won't claim her. However his son ( the half brother she found out about) told my niece that she looks just like his dad & that he knows she is is sister and that he hates his dad. What kind of guy does that to his own kid? AND IF A MAN WILL ABANDON HIS OWN KID HE WILL ABANDON ANYONE.
Plus the X said there was more in the report, but I told him that that was enough I didn't need to hear more.

Oh and Cerriden you need never be shy about telling me what you think. I dish it out on here all the time. If I can dish it out I should be able to take it too *big grin*

blah.. I never implied that your X was gullible, nor stupid. I don't know him to be able to say things like that. I'm glad he's protective of you. I wish all X's were like that.

What I've said is that I hope you have ALL the FACTS. It would be terrible to throw away a possible great relationship because of speculations. I understand that your X did a background check of some sort. But does the doc really have 3 kids that he isn't supporting or are these women trying to get him to support babies that may not be his .

I know you've been through a lot these past few days. There's a time for everything and if you've noticed, I don't usually hold back. But I do know that, without pushing you into talking, eventually you'll give us the scoop on all of it.

I love you --- is your headache gone?