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want to stay home

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Today Is going to be really busy. I am supposed to go an hour away to my friend's babies birthday party. Then I have to find a dress still, and go to a black and white formal party tonight. THere are alot of details to work out in between, and I just don't feel like going anymore. Both of my friends will be pissed if I don't show up, this is the reason I am losing friends.

Through all of the emotional stress I have gone through lately, I am just drained. I don't want to do anything. I think I have to go...

Maybe I will tell them I am not feeling well?
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It is such a eprsonal decision. I was supposed to go to an NFL game last weekend. I really struggled. I got advice that sid go, it will do you good to get out around people and stay home if you want only uu know what is good for you. I think both sets of advice are useful. Which puts it squaerly back in your corner -- do what you feel is the most comfortable for you now, as long as you know you are taking care of yourself.
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I agree with anne, it's such a personal thing to you. I would say make the effort, because you may surprise yourself and enjoy it. That sounds really hypocritical, because I'm sat at home with a bottle of wine instead of going to a colleagues leaving do. Just don't put yourself in any situation whwere you may be uncomfortable
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I feel the same way. I was advised to take baby steps that I feel comfortable with. Perhaps a shopping day with a friend, coffee. I know I could not handle any big social functions at this stage of my break up, but you really have to go with your gut feeling. we are all in different stages. I do know we can't just shut down completely.
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Michelle, pull up your big girl panties and deal with it :)

Seriously, go out, pretend like you want to. You will feel better, keep some friends, and with time, you'll be glad you did!

Trust me, I would huddle up under a blanket and let life pass me by if I could.
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Michelle, you need to have a talk with your friends. With what you're going through, they need to understand that sometimes you just don't feel like talking or going out. Good friends would not expect you to live up to their preferences just now.
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Michelle get your butt out there...you are too young to sit at home all the time. There is still a life to live and even if you have to paint a smile on, do it....good or bad time you will be glad you went.
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Sweet Michelle, you need to be around people. Go and then if you want to leave, you can. Take care of yourself, but getting all dressed up will let you see what a beautiful wonderful woman that you are, both inside and out. Good luck.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
Go.. please go.

I didn't go out.. and I found myself to start to withdraw...and find excuses about being too tired or busy to go out.

Now I sit here.. on the computer.. my real friends.. I withdrew from them so long ago... I don't feel connected now.

Please go.. have a smashin time and look fab for me.
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Why not compromise. Go to ONE event. During this difficult time it's easy to feel overwhelmed and want to withdraw. Select one of the events, go, have a nice time! This way you will get out, not let everyone down, but not be overwhelmed! ((HUGS))
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You sound like you are fighting depression by not wanting to go do what you like to do normally. Fight it, get dressed up, be beautiful, and maybe find that others see you as beautiful. It may help, it may not; but at least you are not giving in.
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I am dealing with a massive hangover today, so I will write more later. I went to both parties. I was late for both, but I went :)
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Let us know later if you had a good time!
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