Just two weeks from learning about my divorce, I have seen a couple highs and more regularly the deep depths of lows. After 10 years of marriage and two kids, I'm still having a really tough time letting go. I know in my head that my marriage is going to be over but how come I can't get myself to feel this in my heart? Maybe it is just too early to expect acceptance. It pains me so much that I just want to move forward to the next step. This process is just to incredibly painful. I have done all the right things- counselor, friends, family, meditation, exercise, trying new things, and this website. Helps to be distracted but can not take the emptiness away. I can't start to heal if I can't accept it. I am sure this varies greatly with each relationship but when did you finally get to a place where you could also see how the marriage was not all that great for you. I am so blinded by that right now but I know there were many things that were missing for me as well. What had to happen for you to finally accept this is real and not a nightmare?