Vices: Alcohol, drugs and affairs
Those are the big three. If your significant other is having an affair or you suspect he/she is, it is critical that you remember that this is simply a vice for them to cope with whatever demons they are dealing with. Although it may seem like a personal attack on you, it is not!!!! Just like drinking and drugs isn't a personal attack on you either. Your significant other may lash out at you - call you stupid, fat, blame you for they way they are feeling. NONE of it is true!!!! The only way they can deal with their devils is to lash out, to try to exorcise the pain out of their soul through bringing other people (you) down. Keep the faith. Focus on you. Your significant other will not change their vice until they realize they need help dealing the issue(s) driving them to their vice.
Hope today finds you feeling better and better!!
I am at a better place with my ex and his wife than I have ever been. I can actually have a conversation with him on the phone and keep my cool. When either one of them does something annoying I just do an eyeroll, chalk it up to them being them, and move on with my life. What I'm struggling with is the double identity crisis. Years ago I went to going away party for my mother when she...
This is a link by Darlene Lancer https://www.whatiscodependency.com/trauma-abuse-breakups-divorce-ptsd/#more-13463 about abusive relationships and moving forward.After reading this and speaking to my therapist by phone today, as I progress through the begining of trauma work I'm finding that this article speaks to 'me codependent' to what I hope to achieve Some Day as 'Me, healed of...