Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am in the middle of separating from my wife and eventually divorce. We were only married 8 weeks and then told me she was miserable and that this marriage was a mistake. Has anyone had such an experience? I keep thinking that I was such a bed person but in reality I was not. She is in an intensive grad program and we did not have time together. I was very supportive and we did bicker a bit but nothing out of the ordinary. We were happy and then she got distant and dropped this bomb on me. All I can say is that she may have not been married for the responsibilities of marriage and all she cares is about herself and being independent. I feel like an idiot. I moved to a new city for her and now am stuck here. She did not want to try to get any help, and simply gave up on us. She even hd the nerve to say that she has nothing left to give. It was only 8 weeks!!! She decided this all on her own. Now we just ignore each other and do not talk at all. She has ruined all my dreams! I loved her, still do...but I am so angry and feel betrayed.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I was married 15 years, I have no experience with a bomb such as this. I am so sorry.
As much as I am one to suggest counselling.. this one sounds like it is doomed.. sorry.
Just.. so fast a courtship it sounds..not knowing each other well enough.. moving to a new city, etc.. perhaps it is a good time to cut your loss and leave. End it.
Something to think about.. not that we are all jaded here.. just yes, some of us stuck it out in a non-loving relationship for years, 5, 10, 15... 20plus years even...and nothing changes. The love did not grow, we stayed for the sake of staying and wanting to make 'it' work.
If 'it' does not have a good solid foundation to start with... not a good sign. She wants it to end. You should face that straight on.
Good luck with all of this, and I am sorry that you are hurting.
wow.. now that is wow.. is she open to counselling?.. getting to the root of things?..
you know what?.. I stuck in their after 10 years.. and I should of left then.. and proceeded with the divorce.. but I was determinded to make it work, stick it out.. I was not going to walk away from 10 years...and.. well in the end.. stuck it out for 26.5 years.. most of it really bad.. but I was going to make it work.. had 3 kids.. and well.. there was no solid foundation in place from the start.
go to counselling.. see if there is a foundation... it may be stress doing this to her right now.. go find out.
Shannen
Lick your wounds, cry, howl and move on. She is not the one for you.
There is someone out there for you but try not to rush into another relationship. Take out some alone time to reflect.
How did you meet your wife?