Didn't bring her up that way? Children are brought up by what parents do, not what they say.

I am so sorry for this happening to you. I used to smile or look concerned and nod a lot.

If he doesn't like it because his daughter doesn't want to see him, perhaps he could arrange some counseling sessions for the two of them?

Alone, I am SO sorry that your STBX is putting YOU & YOUR D through this. HE is being selfish, self-centered & self-absorbed. I can not believe he would say that y'all's D needs to get over it & talk to him. Good grief!~! How shallow & low can HE go? YOUR daughter is HURT & he needs to realize it. If he doesn't HE will end up pushing your daughter COMPLETELY away & she won't have anything to do with him.

As far as you being angry, YOU have a VERY VALID reason for being angry. HE is demanding things from your daughter that she is NOT ready to do yet. HE has also violated her trust & she is hurt, in turn it IS going to affect you too. Hopefully he will realize what he's doing before it's too late & pushes her away completely. "Keep Your Chin Up!~!" I'm here if you need to talk!~!

Oh that makes me so mad. Men are so selfish and manipulative. At least he has to endure the consequences that his leaving up set his children. They won't respect or forgive him until he earns it back. Hang in there. We all have stories like this. It hurts and it hurts bad. The best defense the only defense is living a better larger happier life.

It's hard dealing with teens and they are put thru this pain, sometimes I think that the spouse that leaves, just does not get- how hurt everyone is when they walk out. Your daughter has every right to be angry with him. I know it affects as a parent, and the one at home with the teen - we see our kids hurting and it affects all of us - just be there for her that's all you can do and you have no need to feel bad about yourself what you feel is legitimate! Hang in there

Sorry to hear things are that tough. A good realationship with both parents is certainly beneficial to the child and must be maintained by both parents. I would agree with Bert that if they are not getting along maybe some counseling could smooth out the bumps.

My little daughter hasn't seen her dad in three months. I moved out b/c of his verbal and emtional abuse. His justification is that I took her, so.... he is letting her suffer by showing no interest in seeeing her whatsoever. Yet I actually WANT him to see her, b/c I too think kids need two parents.Or more likely, I just don't want her to feel rejected (which she does). I don't even badmouth him to her- I try to explain that daddy just is hurt right now. But that is CRAP not wanting to see your kid. And, my daughter is just like yours- she says SHE does not want to see him. Why am I even trying to bring them together?

He needs to back off and let your daughter make the first move. All he is doing is trying to speed things up for his sake and in the process only slowing it down. My advice is if she is not in counseling get her there and let her tell u when she is ready to do some with him.

I am so sorry. I know this is just so hard. I talked with my counselor today and he said I just need to take control of my life and not worry about him. It is so shitty how they treat us.

sounds like my ex who thinks that he can treat people however he wants AND THEN...tell them how to feel about it. Arrogance.