The question is do you not want to have more children? You can always have the vasectomy reversed!

At 53 you tell the truth. Plus I dont think it would be wise to bring more kids into this world. In your financial situation and drama about living, by the time you get strait you will be older still.

i plan on getting one soon i am to old to have more kids plus i dont want to die paying child support

I actually know of someone who was married once, got divorced, got remarried, got his vasectomy reversed and had 4 children with his new wife. I think you just need to be honest with the next woman. Sometimes it works to get the vasectomy reversed, but she definitely needs to know the truth.

Hey. One step a time.

Thriver said it! One step at a time.

You are dealing with a lot right now and worrying about whether the next woman in your life will care that you had a vasectomy or not is not something that really matters right now. That being said, I have found that women see it as a good thing that you were willing to take that step in the past and are not too macho to admit it. Knowing that seems to put them a little more at ease when you do become sexually active with them. Additionally with advances in medical technology vesectomies are more easy to successfully reversed these days then in the past, if it should come to that.

Right now you should be worried about more important things.

God bless you my friend.

If you have not met "that woman", then why borrow trouble.

Your feelings may change if you do meet the "love of your life". And the procedure can be reversed.

take your time.

Hey, it can be reversed if you want too. That is the question, do you want too?

As for the next one, tell her right away. It may not matter.

I did after my son and have not regreted it at all since.

Back in 1993 we had to decide what to do.. so I made a deal, if we decide not to have another, I'll get a vas; if we do, then she'll get tied.

Well, I became Mr. Mom, she had her tubes tied. I always felt a vas caused people get get 'puffy' and I liked being thin.

So I have a loaded gun still but was thinking to get the vas, I surely do NOT want any more children. Can't afford the ones I got.

I also have had one and the realistic views of reversal are dismal...less than 30% of reversal surguries work and the longer it has been done the less chance it will work. Mine was done almost 9 years ago so my chances are slim to none.

they all "go back on it to regulate their periods"; this is because they are out screwing around and would not be able to expalin a pregnancy to their vasoed husband

I'm in the same boat as Mike40...mine's been about 9 years ago....and since I suffered from testicular pain as a result of the procedure, I am very hesitant to think I'd ever want anything else done down there.....and.....after 16 years of marriage, I think it's best if I end up with a woman who's had all the kids she is going to have, or with a woman who doesn't want any....

OK I have not had one yet, some times wish I had one at 15. Would have made life a lot easier since neither one of us were all that great at being parents. Guys I can't see ever getting it reversed why would you want to go through the pain and the humilation you have to feel. I know its all clinical and its a normal every day procedure, but lets face it some one is taking a very sharp object down to man land and I am pretty sure I would not let any one take that trip twice. Once would be difficult enough and I am willing to do that but reverse what the hell I am to old to be chasing todlers let alone messing with babies, yuck. Grand kids are not that far of, maybe, so if I really want to be around little kids I can wait for that.

As a woman, I would absolutley want to know if my partner had one, keep in mind of course, it's not really first date conversation...

RobNi-

I beg your pardon ???