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Upcoming Birthday...What to Do?

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My 33rd birthday is coming up in a few weeks and I'm trying to come up with a way to celebrate it, instead of feeling like shi* about the state of my life. As I'm sure many of us feel, when I think of my age and where I'm at in my life and relationship...I feel CRAPPY. I don't really have many friends to celebrate with and my family doesn't really understand what I'm going through...and isn't really there for me the way I need. Any advice on how to do something just for me to help perk up my spirits on my looming birthday? (I have VERY limited funds). I'd like to see my birthday differently...and not get sucked into feeling like another year went down the drain. I've tried doing things by myself lately...going out to eat etc, and many times I fight back tears. I'd hate to feel like shit on my birthday. Thoughts? Advice? Anything you've done that helped?
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Pamper yourself, maybe have a day at the Spa, get a manicure or do something you enjoy that you haven't done in a while
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I agree. Go to the spa and get a mani/pedi. I know you have limited funds, but this is one day you NEED to splurge on yourself a little bit. Turn the heat down a couple degrees this month and you'll make out on the $$$ in the end.

Happy, happy birthday!
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My 42nd birthday is on the 17th. I am going to spend the day getting a massage and maybe a facial. Then I am going to let my daughter take me out to dinner. Believe it or not right before i left for work my STBX sent me an e mail asking me what I wanted for my birthday. Going to just assume that he is thinking of for my daughter and I am going to say her and I for dinner. A co worker told me to ask for my husband back and another one said for him to go to marriage counseling but I will try and be nice. i don't want him ruining my birthday
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ooooooo the spa sounds like an awesome idea!!! or a good movie!! something relaxing :)
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One Valentine's Day, when I didn't have a boyfriend, I bought myself a bottle of perfume. It was my gift to me, it is okay to love yourself a little bit.
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this is awful, but pin a dollar to your shirt and get out to some bar!!! you will get lots of drinks and well deserved attention.
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How about a concert or a movie. I know it's tough to go by yourself. But hey, once the show gets started, no one will be looking at you. And, you will be enjoying the show. Doesn't have to be an expensive thing. Afternoon matinee (SP?) or even a local concert at a NICE club.
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Oh and by all means, buy yourself a cupcake and put one candle in it. Make a wish and don't tell a soul! Then lick the frosting off or pick at it with your fingers just like you were told not to do! LOL! Enjoy!
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OK, my birthday came less than 30 days after we started the divorce process. I celebrated with the kids and she was here.. ughh!
Then, I went to a bar that served dollar domestics with two friends and got smashed off like $15. I was home by midnight and felt pretty darned ok with my situation. Although the b-day was pretty empty of all I've known for 12 years, I still hung out with a real good friend and other acquatainces.
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Hey, what's this "dollar pinning thing". You mean I've been buying my own drinks when I could have had them for the price of a dollar and a safety pin.........Dang. What time is it and where's that darn safety pin.
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MArgie, yes, you pin a dollar bill on your shirt to let everyone know it's your birthday. A lot of people even do it at work places. At clubs, they will either buy you drinks or pin some money on your shirt.... Then you can go get something nice from ALL of them :)
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Oh, man. I so feel for you. I filed for divorce on the July 28th & my birthday was July 31st. It was not a happy day for me. My mom had a birthday dinner for me. I enjoyed being with my family. They were such a support for me.
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