Are they his kids? Was it his house before getting married? Just wondering.

All four of our kids are his too. We were just renting a house together. We have never bought one.

I am sorry that he feels as if it is a chore to take some financial responsibilities when it comes to his children. He isn't thinking like he should be, and hopefully he will wake up and smell the coffee. :)

Sounds like your first kid was him...you have five.

Yes, how dare you interfere with his social life and spending money on his floozy so he can can have fun and ignore his responsibilities while it is okay, and expected that you shoulder all the burden and financial responsibilities :)...don't let him get you down. The courts are on to people like that and they won't be sympathetic.

I don't know you or your situation, but I feel like my ex wanted child support simply so she could use the money. She had told me and a few of her friends that she should have never had children ... and then she threatened ME over custody. Now THAT is unbelievalble!!

It is fairly common that in the pursuit of whatever they want when leaving one family behind, many people forget their responsibilities to their children (and to spouses who are disabled, uneducated or undereducated, etc.). They think they can live their lives on the same income and plan a new life with a new family, conveniently forgetting that they still are going to be liable to some degree for the first family. When they are called on that liability, they feel they are being manipulated. Mostly it is because they realize too late that their take home income is going to be substantially different because the laws recognize their obligations even when they don't. Eventually he will "get it" and realize that it is his responsibility to help you support your kids. Meanwhile, let him wallow in self-pity from bad decisions and not looking at all sides of the picture. Your need help providing for your children, it is his responsibility as a parent and that is just the way it is.

I would never ask him for child support just for me. Right now I am living in my parents home with our 4 kids. I have a 1 year old who needs diapers and things like that. Right now my parents are providing me with all the things that I need to take care of my kids. Including buying them shoes and winter clothes and coats and things of that nature. I would never use my kids to get what I want. I just want to make that clear to everyone. I wasn't even going to file for child support because I was hoping we would get back together but finding out that he is supporting his girlfriend and her kids really ticked me off so I figure he needs to help with HIS kids.

You shouldn't have to make anything clear to anyone...you don't owe an apology or explanation. When a man makes a child, regardless of circumstances, it is his responsibility to financially support them. If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the fire...I don't think there is an ex out there that doesn't use the reasoning that his ex-wife is using the money for herself and not for the children...even my ex did that. But the truth is, even if he is right or wrong, it makes no difference, he is STILL legally and financially responsible for those children.