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Unbelievably Devastated

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I've been here before under another name (Sudden Heartache). I wanted to stay "hidden" I guess because things were still "iffy". My husband has just told me that he DID want a divorce. He likes being "single" and he wants to see what else was out there for him. I think that he just got bored, and wanted to be free to date and whatever else he wanted with other women. I tend to speculate when I don't get answers. ;)

I am so devastated I could just "die" (not really, but I hurt badly). I spent 12 years of my life loving this man for basically nothing. I was 95% dependant on him, and now I am lost. When will this pain and feeling in my stomach go away? What if I am lonely and become the "lonely cat lady" for the rest of my life? I need to be a wife...I want to be a wife. :(

Unbelievably devastated.
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(((Hugs))) from the "lonely dog lady". Don't panic yet. You are going to learn to Breathe without him.

Just reach out and every one is here.
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I would like to say it gets easier but its tough. I can recycle the same advice:it gets better with time, work on yourself,etc. But the reality is it is tough and there are alot of fears you are going to face. Try your best every day to occupy your time and dont beat yourself up. Hang in there and try not to get too up or down would be my best advice.
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I am the lonely cat lady, I have 2. I guess the tough part is learning that one is a whole number and it is okay to be on your own.
My husband gave me up for his addictions and sure it hurts. I look back at the beautiful wedding pics and think why? I don't know, but I am hoping time heals all wounds.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
http://youtube.com/watch?v=e4iGPugRcEg :)
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I am the lonely dog lady-The highlight of my night is watching wheel of fortune with my grandpa.I'll tell you what-it is a heck of alot better than being married to someone who treats me like dirt.
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True Misty...totally true. :)
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I am going through the same things that you are so I feel for you. My husband told me two months ago that he wanted to seperate and I thought everything was fine. I was absolutely devastated! I decided to join the gym and it has helped me so much. It takes away some of my stress and makes me feel good about myself. This site has also helped me tremendously. Hope this helped and you can contact me anytime if you would like to chat.
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I am so sorry. I know that anguish and devastation. It won't be easy. You can literally only take one day at a time.
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Right there with you. He said the same thing last night, but he doesn't know what he wants to do yet. Stay strong. I think our self esteem is torn to shreads when we hear that.
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Absolutely! My self esteem lowered quite a bit, but I asume that I will get better in the regard soon..hopefully. I set up a few goals for myself, I just need to get over this hurt.

I need a hobby.
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We have all felt the same way. A couple days after we seperated he called me to find out how I was, I asked him who I was going to take care of now. He told me to take care of myself. I have never done that. It's a challenge, but I think it's worth working on.
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My husband moved out 3 weeks ago after a year separation in the house. I still have moments where I feel utterly lost. I am angry, hurt, and devastated. 26 yrs for what? But then last night, for the first time, I enjoyed being in my house, alone, and reading a good book on the first cool night we've had in TX in a while. Tonight, I'm missing him again, wondering how I'm going to do this. But, I have the memory of last night and I'm hopeful that I'll get to feel that way again and then maybe one day I'll feel that way all the time.
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It will get worse befor it gets better but hang in there and you will start feeling a little better everyday. My STBX pulled out on me outof the blue a little over a month ago, was compleatly devisted by this and didnt sleep for a week. At this point im certanly not happy with my life but im not misarible. go and do things you enjoy as much as possible, try to think about it as little as possible and eventualy the pain will be there less and less.

Where here for you. *hug*
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
I was the lonely dog lady.. my dog died a month ago. .. so.. now I am just lonely.. yes I have the kids.. but u know what a I mean.

I was a really good wife.. so I know what you mean.

my mom who never says anything nice to me once told me that I was a Great Mom.. ..and that when I was a little girl pple would ask what I want to be when I grow up and I would say a Mother.

now I am a Mom.. but I miss being a wife... damn.. I don't even have a dog now.
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Sorry to hear of your devastation. It has been six months of baby steps to get my strength, hope and dignity regained. Now I am actually starting to see light at the end of the tunnel and you will too just hang on!
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