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UHHHHH.....

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I don't know how I am supposed to keep going on with my life pretending like everything is ok! I can't concentrate at work, I am exhausted, I feel more alone than I ever have in my life, how do people do this? I sometimes think that it is almost worth it to ask him to come home just to get rid of these feelings. I know that I am the one who asked him to leave, I know that our relationship is toxic, I also know that it is unhealthy and unsafe to be there with him, but I at least would know where he is and what he is doing, I wouldn't have to walk around with this constant fear and loneliness. I wouldn't have to listen to my kids cry for him. I don't know if I can do this!
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We haven't separated but it is a very real possibility and its up and down. She won't talk, I have no idea where I stand. I sleep a normal amount of time and wake up absolutely exhausted, I feel hated and alone more so than I ever did when I was single and I don't have anyone to share with person to person. I just want to talk with someone. But yeah, I know how it feels. I never knew that being married could feel so lonely.
deleted_user
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if you asked him to leave because of valid reasons, then you have to stick to it. stop pretending everything is ok, it's not, your going through a very rough time right now. some of us do it because we have no choice, yes it's painful. yes you can do it. you said yourself, it's unhealthy and unsafe to be with him. hang in there. do you want your children to grow up and be in the same kind of relationships, unhealthy and unsafe?
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things are bad for you right now buy in time it will ease should you take him back ask your self will it get worse,i miss my ex all the time but know that i cannot live with his lies either and that would go on this pain is getting better slowly
deleted_user
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It will get better and easier. Stick to yourr guns. You can't let him come back now. I know all about being lonely. I lost my hubby and all my friends at the same time. All I have is my kids. Just donn't give in. I did and the second time he left was even worse than the first. If you ever want to talk we can.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
I lost my family and friends at the same time, too. Through time I was pretty much alienated from my father and sister, after the split we reconciled, so I had only my father, sister, brother a close friend following the split.

6 months later I had a reorg at work and got new supportive people in my life.

They say time heals, most of the 'time', it does.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKQKM8sHOzA

this one was shared this morning: http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/213
deleted_user
deleted_user
larry LDN...Thanks for that "Only Time" video!

Fits very well!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks so much everyone! I was just having a "freak out" moment! I'm sure I will be fine, I am strong, I am going to survive this, and so will my kids... that was just the codependant in me showing! LOL... Thanks to everyone!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Another Enya song...kind of uplifting.

Orinoco flow:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEWHCC0EEok
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