Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am tired, exhausted, desperate for this pain to fade away. I cannot wait for tomorrow when I have a counselor appointment. My in-laws (outlaws) live 90 miles away from me and have just emailed asking to take the 3 older kids this weekend and they need an answer ASAP. Frankly, I just want to be left alone for a while without dealing with them too. Sending the kids there always seems to be more work for me than just keeping them here. Probably because the youngest doesn't get to go. And why doesn't he get to go? Because they do not know how to care for his diabetes either. I want the world to stop and let me off. So, how can I politely say no? Is there anyway I can ask them to give me my space for a little while?
--Sara
--Sara
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
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Today is my 25th birthday, to my somewhat lack of surprise I can see already no one really seems to care. I've always been the kinda person to make sure that everyone I Care about feels appreciated and knew somebody had their back. I can count 4 times this year when I Went out of my way to make sure a "friend" felt good on their birthday, especially if they got left hanging. Its early in the...
--Sara
Are they going to pick them up and drop them off? I would also tell them that if they want all of them they need to spend some time with you to learn about your son that has medical needs. Make them learn.
You do not have to dance to anyone's tune.
If they need an answer ASAP and you're not ready to give them one, then just tell them that. Buy yourself sometime to consider whether or not you could use the lighter load this weekend or not, but if it's more work than it's worth, you're not obilgated.
I'm sure the little one is hurt by not being invited, and the older children may be having guilt about that which they aren't able to put into words.
If you tell them, "I'm sorry, but the kids really need some time to settle into a routine right now and shuffling them around separately is turning out to be quite stressful for everyone."
It might make it difficult for them to agrue the pint with you, if your concern is for the kids well-being.
So long as you're sure you couldn't use the break and maybe do something special with the little one...
C
--Sara
--Sara