Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I feel that I have moved on for the most part from my recent (02/06) divorce. I think I come in here to fine tune that recovery. It's good to read what others do to get by and that is helpful. The posts I make to others are usually helpful, yet I know I can be too opinionated at times.
I went thru two divorces and there are some similarities to recovery. It isnt just one thing that eases the pain. For me it was a combination of things that may not work for all.
Getting around others was very helpful. In addition to divorce workshops that dealt directly with the topic, other outings that were off topic helped by giving my mind a break from divorce issues. Things like bowling, classes for credit and non credit, anything to get me around others. I even did volunteer work at church a few times.
Some form of exersize helped me a lot also. Nothing big, but just things like long walks in the park, and riding my bicycle helped get the blood going to make me feel better.
My religion helped me in my darkest moments. At first I wanted to blame God. Like how could he let this happen to me. But with some God given reasoning I realized I was victim of my own choices, not God's. I got to the point of asking God to actually live with me in my empty place. It may sound funny but he said yes and still lives at my house. (How many out there can say they actually have Gods address?) lol.
Another help for me was keeping my emotions in check as much as possible. Around family and friends divorce was the only thing I wanted to talk about. In time I realized that I must be taxing the friendships so I would try to talk about other things in addition to divorce. Just talking about other things was a help to me.
These chat rooms and forums seem to be a good help also. I didnt have a computer ot internet during either divorce, but I wish that I would have.
My dog and cat were a help also. I would curl up on the couch and my dog would jump up and get by my feet. My cat would want attention once in a while and it would help me break the broken sorrow record playing in my head.
Hopefully this post will be a help to someone. I am not sure what moved me to write it. I just know that its a combination of things to make a recovery. That, and time.
I went thru two divorces and there are some similarities to recovery. It isnt just one thing that eases the pain. For me it was a combination of things that may not work for all.
Getting around others was very helpful. In addition to divorce workshops that dealt directly with the topic, other outings that were off topic helped by giving my mind a break from divorce issues. Things like bowling, classes for credit and non credit, anything to get me around others. I even did volunteer work at church a few times.
Some form of exersize helped me a lot also. Nothing big, but just things like long walks in the park, and riding my bicycle helped get the blood going to make me feel better.
My religion helped me in my darkest moments. At first I wanted to blame God. Like how could he let this happen to me. But with some God given reasoning I realized I was victim of my own choices, not God's. I got to the point of asking God to actually live with me in my empty place. It may sound funny but he said yes and still lives at my house. (How many out there can say they actually have Gods address?) lol.
Another help for me was keeping my emotions in check as much as possible. Around family and friends divorce was the only thing I wanted to talk about. In time I realized that I must be taxing the friendships so I would try to talk about other things in addition to divorce. Just talking about other things was a help to me.
These chat rooms and forums seem to be a good help also. I didnt have a computer ot internet during either divorce, but I wish that I would have.
My dog and cat were a help also. I would curl up on the couch and my dog would jump up and get by my feet. My cat would want attention once in a while and it would help me break the broken sorrow record playing in my head.
Hopefully this post will be a help to someone. I am not sure what moved me to write it. I just know that its a combination of things to make a recovery. That, and time.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
We do need to try to inspire those people who are at the beginning of this road. It really does get better.
I don't have any great things to add to the list. I went out and bought many bottles of Wine.
Probably not the best advice :)