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trying to survive

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This is my first posting. I've been married for 9 years and just was told a couple of weeks ago that he loved me but was not "in" love with me and that he needed space. In the meantime he has met another woman and last night we separated and he went to her. He has a daughter that we see regularly and I have been a part of her life since she was 2. I'm scared of being lonely and don't want to lose my family. I feel like I'm going through 2 deaths at once. I don't know what to do with myself and am struggling to make it through even one day. Any suggestions to help get over the hurt and move on?
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My heart hurts for you- I know about the 2 deaths at once. We have to ride out the hurt, I'm still doing it, but it seems to be getting a little easier with time. Know that the people on here have felt or are feeling what you are and that there is hope in sight. I've read some great success stories on here and that helps me keep going.
pageo
pageo
Get books to read...ones on grieving and morning and also books on self reclamation. Books can be like friends. I also thought John Bradshaws book called "creating Love" will give you some ideas of what has happened and how to look at break up and change in a positive light.

Life changes...it isn't over and you can love again.OOOXO
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I am so sorry. I know what a shock this is. It just hurts. I am into this over three months now. I still hurt but I guess I can say that I am better than I was at the beginning. People here tell me that it does get better and that we will heal and we just have to have faith in that. My advice for the next few days:
- keep it simple. No major projects. You will find yourself really "spaced out"
- get out. Do whatever activity you can get your hands on.
- figure out who your true friends are and RELY on them. You will not be a burden and they will be there for you- you won't feel like eating, but make sure you eat small snacks. Your mind will play tricks on you if you don't.
- write in your journal
You will survive. I never thought I would but I did.
Best of luck.
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This sounds so completely like my story that it's eerie. it's been a year, each day gets a little better. you have bad days, you have good days, and you survive, if you let yourself. we're here.
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I am so sorry, truly. Suggestions to help get over the hurt, or at least lessen it at times: stay busy, keep active, volunteer, lean on friends, go on a trip and just take care of you. I can give the advice, taking it is another matter.
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I just want to take a moment to acknowledge your pain. It's true that those of us here are feeling or have felt something extraordinarily similar to what you are feeling -- you have to know that it will get better, you jsut have to. Not fast, but it will.
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I'm sorry you are going through this. I feel that since i'm separating from my husband, i'm losing his family as well which I love very much. You just have to try and stay in the girl's life afterwards regardless of what happens because i'm sure it will devastate her as well to lose you. Hopefully he will let this happen if he knows what's good for his child. God bless you and the best of luck!
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