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TRYING TO MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND.....

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I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO MAKE MY HUSBAND UNDERSTAND THAT LEAVING THE HOUSE IS NOT THE ANSWER TO MY ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION BUT IN FACT IT IS PART OF THE REASON FOR IT AT ALL.....

HE KEEPS TELLING ME THAT EVERYTHING IS JUST THE WAY THAT I SEE IT AND THAT I AM OVER EXAGGERATING THE SITUATION AND THAT MY ATTITUDE IS WHAT TENDS TO KEEP HIM AWAY AS OFTEN AS HE IS GONE MOST TIMES AND THAT I JUST NEED TO CHILL OUT AND RELAX.

ANY SUPPORT WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED...
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I agree with you actually; because I have been through the same thing. And I did eventually give in and leave but that in turn caused an increase in my anxiety and depression....
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Lisa:
I can see what you mean - him moving out is definitely going to add to your anxiety and depression - not take away from it.

Was the anxiety & depression there prior to his leaving or is it a result of his leaving? In my mind, these are two distinct issues and must be deal with in different ways. Are you in counseling? Together or separately?
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WELL HE HASN'T MOVED OUT....I WAS MEANING THAT EVERYTIME THAT I GET A SLIGHT BOUT WITH DEPRESSION HE JUST TAKES OFF FOR THE DAY AND HERE LATELY EVEN OVER NIGHT TO HIS COUSINS HOUSE TELLING ME THAT HE CANNOT DEAL WITH IT SO HE CANNOT BE THERE....BUT I RECENTLY TOLD HIM THAT I THOUGHT MAYBE HIM MOVING OUT FOR AWHILE MIGHT HELP THIS WAY I DIDN'T FEEL AS THOUGH HE WAS LEAVING ME EVERY DAY THAT HE WALKED OUT THE DOOR....INSTEAD HE JUST WOULDN'T BE THERE AT ALL....DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME THERE?
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