My husband moved out 4 months ago and announced he wanted a divorce. I read the final straw postings and I never did anything horrible like some of the answers (infidelity, drugs, any type of addiction or abuse) so am having a difficult time with why he left. His reasons were that I am a night person and he is a morning person, he wants to be around more outgoing people, I didn't pay enough attenion to him when he had cancer (testicular, 100% curable, little to no pain involved in the treatment, I was working full time), his brother and father and cousin died and it prompted him to re-evaluate his life at mid-life. He is 47 and now lives in a loft apartment downtown where most of the residents appear to be in their 20's and 30's and seems to be happy as a clam. I don't think he misses me at all. He has his work and his work friends (they go out drinking quite alot after work) and that seems to be enough for him. I wake up anxious every day and the Xanax doesn't help. I do want him back because I thought we had a good relationship. I am still trying to convince him to go to therapy with me but he refuses. He just says "I'm done." This is after 20 years! I would appreciate your comments. I am hurting and just needed to talk to you all. Thanks for being there.
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