As the person was the one who was left behind recently when my wife informed me that our marriage was now over, I have been through the full range of emotions and didn't handle the news the way she was hoping I would. Although I didn't turn into a completely hateful person to her, I did make some mistakes. I began directing my hurt toward her new "best friend", a younger man she had developed a close relationship with. I know that this is natural but it did cause much discourse. I also tried to beg, plead and hang on as long as I could. This drove her even further from me and has caused a larger "wedge" to be driven between us. I realize that my behavior was not as "reasonable" as she had hoped for, but I was truly devestated and in many ways still am. I am trying to come back from that to get to the point where she had hoped I would be from the beginning in this, seeing that there is no changing her decision and accepting that she has taken a new path. I have read much from many sources that gives me some hope that she will become less abrasive toward me if I try to continue to be more accepting of her desire to move in this new direction in her life. I am hoping that I haven't done too much damage by being a total mess toward the prospect of life without my family. I know that she may never be as "friendly" as we both hoped we could be in this someday but I am trying, as hard as it is.. Has anyone else had similar circumstances where their emotional behavior caused more problems than there might have been and then was able to have a decent relationship with their ex for everyone's sake?
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