I wrote on here before, asked for a reply for a test. Got none. Maybe I was to vague and people here thought I may be someone negative to the intentions of this forum. So this posting I will elaborate.
Firstly, my DS name drgnlvr is because I love dragons. You can call me me Dragon if want. I joined DS for Fibromyalgia support forum and have made friends there and continue to participate.
I am a 45 year old male, father to two, youngest (14) lives with me.
Why join in this forum? After almost ten years of marriage my wife said "I need some time". This is two weeks after I caught her talking to a guy on phone saying "I love you" and good morning, night, and even some sexual comments. We agreed on counseling and try to make things work, plus agree she would drop stuff with guy. Yeah... whatever because after she packed as much as she could and left I saw phone records showing her texting guy 30+ Times a day. Never stopped. Didn't even try to work on "us" as I was willing to despite she didn't deserve it.
Needless to say I confronted her, said I know she is with her new boyfriend. One week after her leaving she posted on FB "in relationship". On top of it all got together with people that were our friends but haven't been for a while. Found out why. They knew and didn't want to get involved to let me know my ignorance. Love can be truly blind! Anyway, at least third time cheated on me, plus some major financial issues I didn't know about.
So now she is gone living with her boyfriend and I still have to deal with her for other reasons (whole different story) despite I want to tell her off. Worst part is she has my daughter that she has been around since before kindergarten that wants nothing to do with her used to be stepmother. Her pain is what makes me most angry!
So here is my book and part of the story. I am glad I joined the other DS group and hope to get the same benefit from this one, for me, and me helping others.
I hope after me sharing people here will take me more seriously and let this be my other place for venting, being vented to, and have some interaction and support with others that know what it's like to wear my shoes for a day.
Take care all and thank you for reading my vent!
My husband and I aren’t able to discuss the affair yet (DDay Feb 8). We both went to IC when this first happened, and his counselor said they couldn’t talk about the affair until they talked about him because he has no emotions. He has been working with his counselor to connect to his emotions and so far he’s really only been able to connect to feeling sad for his siblings at some point in...