It can be broken as many times as you let it. Just unfortunate you were with the wrong person. Don't ever give up hope and trust in people. There are those that take advantage of it. Stay doing good for you and your family and then when the timing is right, someone who will do good by that trust will come along in your life.

I so hope you are right, JTGPP. I am just afriad that when it is the right person I can trust, I will not know it and blow it.

When you figure it out, let me know... this is my biggest stumbling block!!!

As many times as you let anyone near it.

I don't know...very slow process. I will never trust the stbx again.

I go with my gut feeling. Unfortunately I didn't listen to it when I married stbx. I will never make that mistake again.

I think that we need to learn to trust Ourselves First. I have Never done that, I relied on Everyone Else to make my decisions for me.

It has made this very difficult-worse that it would have been...I should have left, and Years ago...but I didn't know How to.

If you trusted once, you will trust again. It is obviously in your nature to do so.

Tami, you are so right. Got to trust ourselves & our gut instincts over everything else. I trusted him for 39 years while my gut screamed at me. I was so brainwashed, I'm amazed I finally got out. I'm proof that it's never too late to learn to trust yourself.

TamiJ1 I feel you are right. I think we need to trust in ourselves first. I have had trust in someone else fail twice. Hopefully third time is a charm. We do have to put it out there again and hope for the best. But you should know the signs to look for before it goes to far that much I will be weary of

not sure how you know how to trust again or who is trustworthy....i guess thats the chance you take when you roll the dice in the game of life! :-/ sorry my answer isn't more helpful

I don't know, I've always been a trusting person. I don't know how to live without trust. I trusted stbx more than anyone else in the world, I trusted myself in making my decision. The fact that he conned me, I can do nothing about. I have to believe that it is the individual, not mankind. Would I trust stbx again. No not initially. If I saw an absolute transformation and I had the witness of a counselor who was part of it and saw it as well, I would consider rebuilding a slow trust. But I wouldn't expect that will ever happen. I will move on, I will trust again. I will also be slower and way more cautious in giving my heart again, but I will love and trust again. To withhold that will be to only punish myself. I was not the betrayer in this relationship, if I don't trust again, I only betray myself and let the stbx still maintain a grip on me. I won't let that happen.

Well said, julik!

Not trusting someone else only lets my stbx continue to dictate the rest of my life. I can't let him do that.