Yes I have trouble trusting people too. I used to take it personally when someone betrayed me or abused my trust.
I dont think you can trust people in general I had a teacher once who said it best. She said " Jesus saved the world and he got betrayed....what have you done that makes you above betrayal.

I'm right there with you.

Yes, yes, yes.
It's hard to trust again once you have been bitten.

I felt lack of trust for a long time. After doing the best I could and then being rejected really hurt. My first though was, okay, never again. After thinking about everything for a long time I think I am over it all, the heartache, financial cost, the feeling of being ripped off.
I am comfortable just dating, and if the right good looking woman comes along that has a good job I might go for it again.
In time you will feel better. For now dont rush it.

Very wise teacher tiptoe! No one is above betrayal, something we do all forget.

On the note of onthebeach, it is hard not to be synical. The hardest is not to scorn others for the betrayal of the person closest to us.

I'll never again be able to trust anyone completely. I trust myself. I know that I want a full life and will live accordingly. What I trust is that happiness is worth going out on a limb for and no matter what happens..I will be okay.

It will get better. You will build trust again, one person at a time. Just allow yourself to have friends.

I believe that everyone should be trusted until they give you reason not to...it's easier that way for sure.

i have the same problem... The person i put everything into disapointed me the most... If he would anyone would...

Yes I feel the exact same way, there are very few people I trust right now and everything seems like a big lie, like love, marriage, and forever, I NEVER would have thought I would give up on those things, but he made me like this, i hope one day I will believe in those things again with my whole heart

My thinking is with downforthecount...I trust people til they show me I shoulndn't trust them. So my stbx is moved from the trust list to the shit list.

I just think it is something in the way I am programed, I trust people. I guess I have a hard time feeling that someone's intentions are bad. I wish at times this wasn't how I thought, but I honestly don't try to hurt other people and I give them the same benifit. I still want to trust my stbx, but I know it is not wise.

Not only do I not trust people any more myself, but when friends will tell me that their husband had to work late, or go on a business trip, etc. my immediate thought is to wonder if he's really meeting some other woman somewhere. It's not even MY husband, and I'm cynical!

I thought I had trust issues before.... those were nothin' compared to now. Thjose two were scheming behind my back for months, and were going to do so for a few more months but they got outted by her lover(stbx and married exfriend/exemployee OW). Knowing now just how devious she was, and how I bought it into it hook, line and sinker while she pretended to be my friend and all the while was manipulating me and stbx (the fool). Stbx is a whole nother story all by himself. But sometimes I think how can Ie ever trus tanother friend if they will involve themselves in the way she did in my life to the point where they risked everything i had worked for my whole life and caused me so much loss (including my marriage). Uh-oh, I feel a rambling vent coming on......

I've always tended to trust people until they proved they weren't trustworthy. My problem is my lack of trust in myself. I trusted my ex before I trusted my own gut instincts. If I had just trusted me, I wouldn't be in this mess today.